Tips Jan 13, 2022 18:51

Do many women dislike morning dates?

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I’m married and work remotely, so I can’t go out at night under the pretext of having dinner with someone, and I need to be home by the afternoon on weekdays. For example, would many women find it inconvenient if the plan were to meet at 10 a.m., have a meal, then go to a hotel and wrap things up around 4 p.m.? I plan to tell them what times I’m available when we have our first meeting, and I’ll be reaching out to women who are available on weekdays. I understand the first date is supposed to be four hours, and since I’m planning to have lunch only and then wrap things up, I’m thinking of setting the meeting time for around 11 a.m. Once we start seeing each other, I’d like to spend a little more time together, so it might sometimes go beyond four hours. In return, I’m thinking of occasionally adding activities like watching a movie or shopping—I’d like to support her by buying everyday necessities at places like LOFT. For the women here, what time in the morning would make you feel that meeting up is too early, inconvenient, or tiring?
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I’m Nana Ayase ☆ Actually, I’d prefer someone who’s married. I wouldn’t be able to make an offer to someone who’s completely focused on working hard.
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the president’s office as well. There are quite a few meetups timed around lunch, so 11:00 should be fine. > Since we’re planning to part ways after lunch only If the woman is a dating type A or B, that shouldn’t be a problem. However, if she’s a dating type C or D and you plan to part ways after just a meal, I think you should mention this when making the offer—something like: “On the first day, we’ll just have dinner and then go our separate ways, so we’ll be together for about one to two hours. You don’t need to leave four hours open.” > Instead, I’m thinking of occasionally adding a movie or shopping—for example, helping her purchase daily necessities at LOFT. If you’re doing this for the woman’s sake, I’m not sure she’ll be all that pleased. It might work if she enjoys watching movies and is genuinely having trouble affording daily necessities. But normally, she’ll probably think, “I don’t particularly want to see a movie,” and will already buy everyday necessities when she needs them. I get the feeling that the image you have of these women is quite far removed from what the women registered with Universe are actually looking for. You may want to do a little more research. When you talk about buying daily necessities, it also makes me suspect that your allowance is going to be rather low. And the fact that you mention movies makes you seem like someone who acts on assumptions without asking what the other person wants. I understand wanting to spend a long time together, but I think you should regard that as something to consider only after you’ve been seeing her for about six months and she’s comfortable with it. In the first place, even from the second meeting onward, a normal meal would usually take about an hour, followed by around two hours for the rest. So if you want to spend roughly twice that amount of time together—around six hours—you should probably increase the allowance accordingly. Overall, I feel like you may be lacking some basic understanding, and I’m worried you might end up making the women uncomfortable. Of course, if you mean, “No, I’ll pay an allowance of over ¥100,000,” then six hours should be fine…
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I’m Fuu, a columnist. Women who have weekdays off, freelancers, and married women may be available during the daytime. I imagine many women would feel that six hours is too long. A good basic plan might be to meet at noon, have lunch, then go to a room, and wrap things up around 4 p.m. Once you’ve gotten closer, you could occasionally discuss whether a longer arrangement might work and feel out their response. Since women can buy everyday household items themselves, they may not be especially pleased to receive them… Movies depend on the person, too, so make sure to learn about your partner’s tastes and preferences before deciding.
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I’m Rin, a female member of SALON. Personally, I really appreciate having that time! It frees up my evenings, so I can schedule other plans or work then, which is a big help!
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I’m Aya, a female member. I do feel guilty, but I sometimes meet an involved papa (a male supporter) from 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. so his wife won’t find out. Once we get close, I’m fine with it.
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We meet early in the morning and go golfing together. We also go to a hotel, then part ways in the evening. Marika
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A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member. Rather than morning dates specifically, I dislike long dates. Spending a long time on a date with someone you don’t like is painful. It’s not as if getting something bought for you makes a long date okay.
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🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
I’m a male member, and honestly, I’m one of the less successful guys. 10:00 might be a little difficult, but there are women who meet from around 10:30 or 11:00. I currently have two on monthly arrangements like that. Women who can only meet during the day are more likely to be married, so be careful. That said, you do see quite a few women whose profiles say they prefer daytime dates.
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