A YouTuber in a couple with a 27-year age gap is being slammed as creepy (the guy is the older one)
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People really do see it as creepy when a couple with that kind of age gap simply walks around together, don’t they?
I wonder if people find it creepy because, biologically speaking, being romantically attracted to someone who could be your child or parent is abnormal.
I know that acting like you’re devoted to one person can lead to a higher allowance, but I still can’t help worrying about what people around me think.
After realizing that people probably find it even creepier than I thought, I’ve become even more self-conscious.
Have you all stopped caring about how others see you?
I feel like it’s a complicated issue involving morals, social expectations, and things like that.
Do you ever picture the tears on the face of the woman you’re dating’s parents?
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
There’s quite a significant age gap between me and the women I date, so it does concern me a lot (笑).
These days, with work-style reforms and more seniors continuing to work, I try to conduct myself like someone they might encounter in a professional setting—including my clothing and choice of words.
> Do you ever picture the tears of the woman you’re dating’s parents?
Rather than that, I try to make the relationship something her parents would be grateful for—by helping shape her outlook on life, her perspective on men, and how she saves money.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, answering your question.
> “It just comes across as creepy, right?”
If the woman seems more calculating, people might say things like, “Is she only after his money?” So I don’t think it’s always simply seen as creepy.
That said, just seeing a man and woman with a significant age gap walking together probably wouldn’t make people think that way. They might if the couple were being overly affectionate in public, though.
So as long as they behave within the bounds of common sense, I don’t think most people would pay much attention.
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I never really get used to it. I can’t help picturing the woman’s parents, too. That’s why I make the allowance as generous as I can.
If she were dating some old guy on a low salary, it would be depressing. But if he’s a high earner, makes all the necessary preparations, and approaches the relationship with a mature sense of ease, I sometimes wonder whether her parents might grudgingly accept it.
That said, I never feel good about myself because of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I always feel guilty, so I make the allowance as generous as possible.
Still, I do believe I’m helping these women with their lives. I pay more than double the going rate, and I never do anything they dislike.
I don’t constantly message them, I don’t walk around town with them, I always use protection, I’m never rough, I keep our dates to three hours or less, and I don’t pry into their private lives unless they ask for advice. Even when they’re on their period, I’ll meet them for dinner only (no intimacy) and still give them the adult-relationship allowance. I make an effort to keep providing a more comfortable environment than what most other papas offer.
Even so, I can’t help feeling guilty on some level, and I also think they probably find me creepy. I’ll never get used to it.
—A loser of a man
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I’m Rin, a female member of SALON.
Honestly, I don’t think people around you are paying that much attention. Even if someone passing by thinks, “Oh, is that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?!” are they really going to say, “That’s so gross”? They’ll probably only think about it for that brief moment.
That YouTuber probably makes money from it, so the more people watch her and call her gross, the more she earns.
Wouldn’t it be worse to miss out on a good man because you’re worried about what others think? If you’re doing it because it’s your own choice, I think you should hold your head high, regardless of what other people may think.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
When I’m on a date, I don’t worry that much about what people around us think.
The staff might think it’s gross in the moment, for example, but those feelings toward complete strangers don’t last long.
You’re worried about what people think because you’re only pretending to show affection.
If you genuinely like each other and are comfortable together, I think you stop caring what others think.
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I watched it, lol.
Honestly, I thought it was pretty good—the way they seem to genuinely like each other.
It probably feels gross to you because you view everything in terms of money.
If you just watch it with an open mind, you’ll simply think, “Oh, wow!” and move on.
That said, it would be creepy if more men watched it and mistakenly thought, “I can do that too!”
Akari
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It doesn’t bother me yet.
You just shouldn’t meet anyone you find creepy, questioner—you don’t have to do “creepy-katsu” or anything.
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There are plenty of perfectly normal couples with about a 30-year age gap. Probably not a huge number, but still…
Of course people are going to criticize it.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, having a member of the opposite sex who’s 27 years younger than you is incredibly enviable.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
What’s creepy isn’t couples with a big age gap—it’s you, the person asking this question, putting on a fake display of devotion because you want money.
A large age gap isn’t creepy at all if the feelings are genuine, and in a way, people even respect that. I honestly think Kato-chan and his wife are pretty amazing.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
That definitely happens. It can’t really be helped. Still, I dress in a mature way because I’d at least like us to look more like a boss and an employee—or, better yet, a hostess and her customer.
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