I plan to make that clear to the woman during dinner on the first day of the arrangement—before going to a hotel—and let her decide whether she’s okay with it, but I’m worried I might receive a bad review.
What do you think?
Why not use “Gomu Tsukemasen” as your club name?
Your last name would be “Gomu,” and your first name would be “Tsukemasen.”
Also, put this at the very beginning of your profile:
“Please understand in advance that, for religious reasons, I can’t have sex unless it involves ejaculating inside without a condom.”
That should do the trick.
—A loser guy
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This is Joe.
Having sex without a condom increases the risk of illness and pregnancy. Here at Universe Club, there’s also the risk of being disliked by women and receiving a bad review. The fact that you’re asking about something you could figure out with a little thought simply because it’s free suggests you’re quite likely to receive a bad review.
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“Because I can’t finish with a condom on.”
“Because I’ve never done it with one on.”
So what? That’s basically what I’m saying.
I find him extremely self-centered and unbelievably shallow.
Someone like that is clearly looking in the wrong place.
—Akari
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I’m Gaku, a male member.
Isn’t it scary when a young woman is okay with going without a condom from the very first meeting? That means she’s okay with it even with men she’s only spending one night with, right?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Since this comment shows no consideration for women, I suppose it’s only natural that I receive negative ratings.
Please look for a woman at a sex-work establishment who will agree to NN.
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You’ll get a bad review.
If that’s what you want, become the kind of man who can find a partner for it privately.
For starters, work on your skills so that both you and your partner can be completely satisfied with sex using a condom.
At this rate, you’ll just keep having self-indulgent, empty sex forever.
Paper Airplane
Bringing up something that unpleasant beforehand obviously isn’t going to lead to exciting sex… Think about your partner first.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
When I was in elementary and middle school, safe-sex education was pretty standard—probably because it became more common after the AIDS crisis in the ’90s. But it sounds like many older men didn’t receive any proper sex education when they were kids. Apparently, even health classes were separated by gender.
Back then, the average age at first marriage was also in the 20s, so they’d have unprotected sex with their wives, have children, and then become sexless. They’d carry on into middle age, only to start demanding unprotected sex from the women they date.
No wonder syphilis is spreading in Japan…
At the very least, please add several tens of thousands of yen per meeting as compensation for the risk of exposing women to STIs. Maybe then you’d get fewer bad reviews.
Oh, but apparently quite a few women also have STIs. Is that side of things being handled properly?
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I think it’s good that you’re clearly communicating your terms. Unfortunately, depending on how the woman sees things, you may receive some negative feedback.
It’s your responsibility, so ultimately it’s up to you, but aren’t you scared of going without protection right away?
Fuu would be too scared, worrying that if she has several papas and casual partners, you could quickly end up with an STI.
You need to look closely at the person and establish the terms clearly—going without protection is too scary for me.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
For example, if a man invites a woman whose dating type is A (dinner only) to have an adult relationship on their very first day, he may receive a negative review for not understanding her dating type. Even the staff may feel that the woman’s position is more reasonable.
(To be clear, it’s not simply that it’s unacceptable because it’s the first day. Bringing up an adult relationship during the course of seeing each other is something that can happen even between ordinary couples. So if they’ve met many times, the staff wouldn’t necessarily think the man was at fault even if the woman complained.)
With that in mind, I think your concern is probably justified regarding how a woman who naturally expects a condom to be used would perceive you.
If that’s the case, there’s no need to limit yourself to a dating club. You might as well go to a high-end soapland where condoms aren’t required.
But if you genuinely want to build a relationship with someone as one person to another, then you should use a condom.
Alternatively, you could spend about six months seeing her for dinner only, allowing her to understand that you’re someone she can trust. After that, some women may be willing to move on to an adult relationship.
For an ordinary woman, having sex without a condom immediately after meeting—or after only a few dates—would probably be extremely difficult.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It might happen. Nothing you can do about it. If you get a warning, I’d suggest switching to another club or going to a high-end soapland.
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