Please advise me on how many meetings I should give it before moving on.
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For the first meeting, I don’t invite her to a hotel; we only go out for a meal or coffee.
If a woman can’t decide by the second meeting whether to go to a hotel, should I give up on her and look for my next offer?
I don’t have much experience and am still figuring things out through trial and error.
This is Joe.
Let me offer a different perspective.
These days, Joe makes decisions based not on frequency, but on money. In other words, “How much am I willing to spend on this girl?” After a lot of twists and turns, that figure is currently 100. Because of this Joe standard, the number of offers I receive has dropped dramatically. Then, when we meet for the first time, I humbly assess whether she matches my standards.
It’s disappointing that I’m often judged by the other person before I can make my assessment, but these days Joe believes that “time is money,” so I try to see it as having worked out for the benefit of both of us.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Even with Type B, there are very few cases where things progress to an adult relationship after three or more dinners.
Many women who are prepared for that but choose Type B do so because they don’t feel able to turn things down if the first date starts heading toward an adult relationship.
I’ve heard from women that if you continue having dinner dates several times, the relationship becomes established as dinner only (no intimacy), and it stops progressing into an adult relationship.
So, basically, I think it’s best to limit it to two dinners. Only women who really want things to develop into an adult relationship should risk trying for a third dinner.
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With a C type or a B type leaning toward C, it’s usually on the first day.
With a solid B type, it’s usually the second meeting—or more often, the first.
With other B types, I don’t initiate, so it’s around the fourth, fifth, or sixth meeting.
For an A type, about twice that long.
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More men give up after the second or third meeting, and once things progress to an adult relationship, most men expect it every time. So if he’s a B type and you really like him, I think waiting until the fourth or fifth meeting can help filter things down to the right person.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office will answer this as well.
> I don’t invite women to a hotel on the first meeting; we only have a meal or coffee.
Not inviting women who are looking for Type C or D relationships from the first day might seem disrespectful to them. However, if you don’t invite them on the first meeting, then you’re obviously only making offers to Type B women, so that shouldn’t be a problem.
If your question is how many times you should meet a Type B woman, I’d say:
First meeting: coffee only = good
Second meeting: coffee only = questionable
So I think it’s fine to continue dating until the third meeting.
If it doesn’t work out by the third meeting, I don’t think it will work no matter how many times you meet afterward.
Therefore, I think meeting up to three times is a good approach.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
If it doesn’t progress to an adult relationship (intimate) by the first meeting for Type C, the second for Type B, or by the third at the latest if there’s an exceptional promise, I give up.
I’m not looking for someone just to have dinner with, so I don’t pursue women who can’t make up their minds.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Isn’t it really a case-by-case thing?
If she’s someone I’d want to see even if it were dinner only (no intimacy), I’d keep trying. But if she’s a C- or D-type and I was expecting something from the very first day, only to come away disappointed, I’d probably write her off after the first meeting.
Personally, when I catch myself thinking, “Maybe this isn’t going to work,” I trust my instincts and start pursuing new encounters.
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