I’d like to hear answers from both men and women.
When going on an evening date with the same person, is the allowance different if there’s an overnight stay compared with when there isn’t?
I’ve never stayed overnight before, but I might do so next time, so I’d appreciate your input.
Of course, I understand that the allowance should be increased for an overnight stay, but…
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Maybe you’re reluctant to pay more because you think, “Since we’re staying overnight, I have to increase the allowance.”
Instead, think of an overnight stay as having two regular dates over two days.
For example, if she normally receives 70,000 yen on a pay-per-meeting basis, you should naturally think of paying 70,000 yen for the first day and another 70,000 yen for the second—a total of 140,000 yen.
It becomes unreasonable when you think, “She didn’t go home, so it only counts as one meeting.”
For a one-night, two-day stay, think of it as two days’ worth—in other words, double the allowance. If you look at it that way, it should seem perfectly reasonable.
So if you stay overnight, think of it as having two days of dates. Even if you part ways first thing the next morning, paying double will probably make her feel much better about it.
Of course, some women calculate everything by the hour, so it’s important not to think, “I paid double, so I’m amazing.”
She may even be calculating the hours she spent sleeping. If you take it too lightly, you could end up in for an unpleasant surprise.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I wouldn’t choose a date that goes into an overnight stay. Wouldn’t that just be inconvenient for the woman too? I assume she’s only agreeing to see me because she’ll receive an allowance, so under those circumstances, wouldn’t I need to offer at least twice the usual allowance?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I avoid overnight stays because they’re a hassle in various ways.
Personally, I think it depends on who suggested staying over.
If I suggested it, I’d expect to be tying up her time, so I think the allowance should be increased by about double.
If she was the one who said she wanted to stay over, then we’ve probably already been seeing each other for a while, so I don’t think she’d expect a major increase.
That’s how I’d look at it, and I’d just add a little extra to the allowance.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think increasing it to about 1.5 times the usual amount would be a good idea. That’s probably the minimum that would make women willing to go along with it—even staying overnight with someone they feel they have to be careful around. If the amount stays the same, many women are likely to feel like they’re getting the short end of the stick.
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I’m a male member and kind of a loser.
It really depends on whose preference it is.
I don’t like staying overnight, so I’d never suggest it myself. But if we stayed over at my request, I’d give her the allowance for two adult dates.
That said, I don’t have an adult relationship when we travel overnight. I give her the adult allowance and simply enjoy the trip together.
Even if a beautiful woman were sleeping naked next to me, I wouldn’t get an erection.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t ask them to stay the night, so I don’t change the allowance. However, if I slept with a woman and got worked up the next morning and made a move on her, I’d probably give her a separate allowance for that day.
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