I was having dinner with my papa (a male supporter) earlier, and he asked me what kind of man I’d want to marry in the future.
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I want to marry a man who’s naturally wealthy, buys me a Birkin from an official boutique for special occasions, can afford to send our children to private school from middle school onward, and can send them abroad for short-term language programs every summer—around ¥1 million each time. I grew up in that kind of family, so I honestly see it as normal. But if I actually said all that, men would be put off, right?
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
LOL. Since you already understand what might put him off, it’s up to you. If you want to make your papa back off, tell him. If you don’t, then don’t. Do whatever you like.
You’re not even married to him yet, so it’s all just speculation anyway.
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Even when children grow up in such privileged circumstances, few of them actually make good use of those opportunities.
I remember being surprised by how few of the parents who came to see their children off for short-term study abroad were what you’d call proper—behaving sensibly and not inconveniencing those around them. But after reading your question, it all makes sense: they must have been the parents of children like you.
Even if a family is wealthy, if the parents aren’t wise, their children can grow up with an inflated sense of entitlement.
Even if you go on and on about it proudly to your papa-katsu partner, I’m sure they’ll just think, “Oh, I see.”
Akari
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It wouldn’t put me off. I’d only be thinking, “What?” about the Birkin, but I think spending money on a child’s education is perfectly fine. As for short-term language study abroad, I disagree because, like the questioner, it seems likely to become a waste of money on education.
Personally, I don’t want to have children with a woman who isn’t independent and has no desire to work a regular daytime job. It would be sad for the child to have a stupid mother, and rather than pour money into a child like that, I’d rather spend it enjoyably on myself.
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I’m Rin, a female member of SALON.
Since you’re not going to marry him, I think it’s fine to tell him the truth. I’m sure there are quite a few families like that.
That said, people might generally see it as off-putting, so you could simply say you’re looking for someone considerate… Consideration can mean different things, after all! It wouldn’t be a lie.
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I’m not put off at all. I could easily give you everything you’re looking for.
That said, I’m 1,000% sure I’d cheat on you m(__)m
Not just me—every wealthy man cheats, so if you can accept that, I’ll make any wish come true, whether it’s a Birkin bag or studying abroad m(__)m
Oh, but I don’t think your father has ever cheated. I believe in your father.
A losing man
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I’m Dai, a male member.
It’s just a conversation starter, so I don’t read too much into people’s preferences or back off because of them.
I hope you get what you’re looking for.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If you’re as beautiful as Fan Bingbing or Dilraba, I don’t think he’d be put off at all. You’re so gorgeous, you take my breath away.
If you have a fairly ordinary appearance, the ideal answer to “What kind of man do you want to marry?” would be “Someone like you♡” for a papa who’s genuinely romantically invested. For a papa who isn’t like that, maybe something like, “Hmm… I haven’t really thought about it yet… But I guess I’d like us both to be independent.”
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