Is it unreasonable to think that ¥1 million a month is too little for a papa to have me all to himself?
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A papa who’s always been pretty possessive offered me a monthly arrangement for ¥1 million, saying he wants me not to see other men in return. At the moment, I’m making ¥1.7–2 million a month through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so ¥1 million feels too low. And relying on just that one exclusive papa for ¥2 million would be risky, so if I were to consider it, I’d feel uneasy unless it were closer to ¥3 million. But obviously I can’t say that—I could get dropped, right?—so I told him, “I’m fine with things as they are,” but he keeps bringing it up.
He’s really persistent, and he always seems bothered by the fact that I see other people (he asks me about it constantly). How can I get him to calm down?
I’m Rin, a female SALON member.
I think you should simply tell him exactly what you’ve written here. I don’t think your reasoning is wrong, either. If you feel that 300 a month is a fair amount when you consider the risk of narrowing it down to one person despite currently earning that much each month, explaining it that way may help put him at ease.
After that, leave the decision up to him.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I could give you more specific advice if I knew more about your papa’s personality and lifestyle—such as how often a month he wants to see women—along with his income and how long it’s been since he first met you.
As things stand, I also can’t tell whether 100 is his absolute limit or if he might be able to offer a little more.
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I’m in Seattle.
If your papa (a male supporter) can afford it, I think it’s fine to ask for ¥300,000 a month—just put it kindly.
For ¥300,000, have him promise that he absolutely won’t see anyone else. You can still see other people, as long as he doesn’t find out.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
It probably won’t calm down.
Since you don’t want to end things, I think you’ll just have to deal with it as best you can, even if it’s a hassle.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
There’s nothing wrong with the questioner’s thinking about the allowance amount itself.
To put his mind at ease, I think it would be best to explain the background. The story doesn’t add up because you’re lying, and that’s why he feels uneasy.
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