I think it means continuing to have interest in, curiosity about, and respect for each other.
When you think only of yourself, you tend to look for the cause elsewhere or shift the blame whenever something negative happens. But if you make a habit of reflecting on yourself, you may be less likely to attack or resent others.
I believe it’s important to always remain grateful.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Human relationships are like mirrors, so I think you probably deceived your spouse as well.
I believe devoted couples continually show love and affection toward each other.
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I’m Ayase Nana☆
Please don’t worry—you’re not the only one asking this question.
But you do see married couples who seem really close, right? That’s because they’re both mindful of each other. Are you doing that, too?
When your husband comes home, do you sit around in old, scruffy loungewear? Do you change clothes in front of him? Do you blow your nose in front of him? Since you’re doing things you wouldn’t do in front of a boyfriend, it’s only natural that you’ve ended up more like roommates.
It may be too late to change things now, but if you start being more mindful from today, your husband might notice, at least a little. Try it for two or three months. If anything changes, I’ll be waiting for you in the question box.
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I’m a hopeless loser among the male members.
I’m going to say this as if I know what I’m talking about:
Whether it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or marriage, you should maintain some distance from the very beginning.
I never go to a woman’s place, even if she asks me to. Needless to say, I don’t invite her to mine either.
Even in marriage, it’s better to live in separate apartments in the same building—or, ideally, in separate homes just a three-minute walk apart.
That way, your feelings for each other will last longer.
Living together with someone who isn’t family is asking for trouble. The only people who can truly live together are blood relatives.
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I’m in Seattle.
As the years go by, love fades and sex becomes less frequent in a marriage.
Even so, is it small acts of thoughtfulness that allow a couple to stay close? In the end, can you still be considerate when your partner is genuinely having a hard time?
Couples who are fun and can laugh together are strong, too.
Having a partner became stressful, and I started to feel relieved when they weren’t around. I endured it for 15 years before getting divorced.
If you have a compelling reason you can’t get divorced, let’s have some fun together through Universe Club.
P.S.
I see—living separately while married, or having a weekend marriage, does sound like a good option. Personally, though, I wouldn’t want to get married again even if I were offered 100 million yen.
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