To all the women doing papa-katsu, are you embarrassed to be getting money from men?
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I grew up at an all-girls school from middle through high school, and everyone around me was insanely rich. Everyone had Louis Vuitton school bags as a matter of course, Moncler outerwear, and received things like HERMÈS, Van Cleef & Arpels, and Dior from their parents for their birthdays. It was so obvious from looking at Instagram that they were wealthy, so I felt pathetic and quietly closed the app lol
You can tell just by looking whether someone comes from a wealthy family or is getting men to lavish money on her through papa-katsu or working in the nightlife industry, right?
I seriously can’t take it anymore. I want to die. My P told me, “It’s amazing that a rich heiress like you has lived such a tumultuous life, done papa-katsu, and experienced things ordinary rich girls never could.” But there’s absolutely nothing amazing about me, right? In the end, the women born into wealthy families are the real winners, aren’t they?
I’m Nana Ayase ☆
Those women are simply obsessed with brand names—prepackaged labels. You should create your own brand instead.
It’s not that those women are amazing; their parents are the impressive ones.
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Wearing high-end designer brands to school might make the girls feel good about themselves, but to me, it just looks like people walking around in things far beyond their means.
I went to a rural academic high school, and no one tried to one-up others with things like that. We lived in a completely different world, with entirely different standards for judging people, so I can’t really understand why you’re sitting there enviously watching them.
Still, maybe it comes down to how you were raised—or simply how you spend your days. If you had been able to establish a solid sense of identity, you probably wouldn’t feel so miserable over things like this.
But if you’re already doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because you envy the people around you, then you’ll just have to accept it as a transactional relationship and make the best of it.
Some people can tell just by looking, and if they say you have an unpleasant look in your eyes, there’s probably nothing you can do about that.
Isn’t all you can do to live in a way that allows you to feel confident in who you are now?
Akari
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Honestly, I think it’s more admirable to earn your own money than to live off wealthy parents.
Going to school with a Louis Vuitton bag seems ridiculous to me, but I guess people your age really do get intimidated by that kind of thing.
Also, there’s no need to feel depressed because you think you’re inferior to other people. That kind of thinking accomplishes nothing. You can’t even say what purpose that feeling serves, can you? It has no meaning in your life. It’s a waste of time—a waste of life.
First, focus on winning and being happy yourself. Whether you’re inferior to someone else is just a matter of circumstances. Even if you are behind, think hard about how you can come out on top from where you are. Plenty of people have flourished that way.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I was born into a family with an absurdly high occupational prestige score, and since I grew up in the countryside and went to an academically competitive high school, I spent my youth completely removed from that kind of status competition through consumption. So I honestly can’t relate very much.
On top of that, I was able to live a perfectly normal life during college on nothing but my parents’ allowance, so I’ve never done papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). It pains me that I can’t tell the person who asked, “I totally get it.” Sorry.
I didn’t become messed up enough to start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) until after I entered the workforce. Maybe because I went completely off the rails all at once, I don’t feel embarrassed about being showered with gifts anymore. Being a total nutcase is a massive win.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t really think so. Whether it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or not, I think women who earn their own money and use it to buy things are more admirable than those who have their foolish parents buy things for them.
The real winner, though, is a woman who runs her own business and makes her own money.
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