If the physical chemistry is great, do men not become attached or want to continue seeing someone?
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Men who tell me we have amazing chemistry and that I’m exceptionally good in bed ask for me every time we meet and become intensely fixated on me (licking my cutlery, eating my hair, licking my sweat...)
And yet, when we talk about ending things, they don’t seem attached, nor do they contact me afterward, which leaves me feeling lonely every time.
Even if they’re intensely fixated on someone and the chemistry is amazing, does that not make them want to become attached?
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
> Even if a man is especially attracted to someone, wouldn’t good compatibility or her being exceptionally skilled physically make him want to become attached?
As for her being exceptional in bed, he may have thought so at first, but after being intimate a few times, he might realize she wasn’t quite as special as he initially thought.
As for being especially attracted to her, perhaps something happened that made his feelings cool off.
Once his feelings fade, I think he may simply end things quickly. I’m not sure what went wrong, but it might be worth thinking about whether anything comes to mind.
> Even if a woman’s body is great, wouldn’t a man still want to become attached and continue seeing her?
I think having good physical compatibility would make him want to continue, but that isn’t the only factor. Whether he enjoys talking with her is also an important point.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
If the questioner is talking about papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), wouldn’t it be better to end things cleanly and without any hard feelings?
Wouldn’t it be scary if he became obsessed, stalked you, or kept chasing after you?
Goodbyes are bound to come eventually, so I think it’s probably better to have a papa who can walk away cleanly.
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Maybe it’s because the connection is purely physical...?
I suppose the time you truly can’t walk away is when you’ve fallen completely for the person they are.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I think they simply get bored after meeting and being intimate several times.
I do want to value women I’m compatible with physically, but that alone isn’t enough to make me continue the relationship.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Isn’t she actually becoming attached to you? The reason she seems so casual when saying goodbye may be that she’s holding herself back, thinking that showing that kind of attachment would put you off.
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