I’m supposed to have my first adult relationship today with someone I’ve had dinner with twice. I don’t want to go… The allowance is exactly what I asked for, but I still don’t want to go… He’s fun to talk to, good-looking, and seems like a wonderful man, but I don’t want to go…
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When a man knows he’s going to have his first adult relationship with a woman he hasn’t been intimate with yet, how does he feel? Is he excited?
I’m BB7.
There’s really no sense of excitement—especially after you’ve had dinner together a few times. Usually, the mood drops, so I’m more excited when meeting someone for the first time.
You can tell from the atmosphere when a woman doesn’t want to go any further. It’s better for both of you to say goodbye after dinner.
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I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well.
> The amount is what I asked for, but I don’t want to go…
It seems strange that you don’t want to go even though it’s your desired amount.
Maybe you accidentally quoted an amount lower than what you really wanted?
When naming your desired amount, it’s better to state an amount that would actually make you want to go.
> How do men feel when their first adult relationship with a woman they haven’t been intimate with yet has been decided? Are they excited?
I don’t think it’s often truly decided in advance.
Even if it seems settled, men who know that a woman’s feelings can change probably act carefully and try not to make any mistakes until they actually enter the hotel.
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Seattle here.
I get how you feel—I might have a filthy mouth or be a pervert myself.
Try it once. If you still feel uncomfortable even though he’s gentlemanly and good at it, it’s probably not for you.
Just marry a good-smelling young man and be done with it.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
Since I only receive Type C offers, there’s no chance of an adult relationship being decided in advance.
First dates make me nervous, too—but it’s a pleasant kind of nervousness.
On the day, after dinner, once we discuss the terms and I get the go-ahead for an adult relationship, I relax and feel relieved.
I’m sure all the female members feel nervous and anxious as well. I’m grateful to everyone—they’re all doing their best.
If he seems like a good papa (a male supporter), how about not overthinking it and simply allowing yourself to trust him? They say it’s easier to do something than worry about it.
If he’s experienced, he may be able to ease your anxiety and help you relax.
Try an adult relationship once, and if it still doesn’t feel right, you can always quit. So why not give it a try first?
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I’m a loser of a male member.
Even as a man, I might end up facing a “Manchurian Incident,” so it’s a little scary at first.
It’s perfectly normal for you not to feel enthusiastic about it.
You never know whether someone like Seattle-san, with an absurdly huge package, might show up—or someone like me, with bad breath and a small, uncircumcised one. It’s only natural to feel anxious and lose the desire to go.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
Whoa, that’s a seriously candid post, lol.
Since we’re being real, I’ll be honest too: when it comes to an adult relationship (intimate) on the first meeting, even I don’t know what I’ll decide until the moment comes. I meet with that possibility in mind, but depending on how things go that day, I might decide not to. So I’d rather keep that part vague, lol.
I’ve never made an arrangement in advance, but hearing your honest thoughts makes me feel that way even more, lol.
You can sense the other person’s nervousness and restraint. You can’t just ignore that and expect to get excited, right? lol
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Rather than excitement, it feels more like gearing up for a match or a competition.
If you’re not in the mood, I think it’s better not to do it.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
The first meeting is just a routine, low-key formality. The energy is pretty average.
Things get more intense and exciting later on.
I just bought some sexy lingerie and a vibrator to get ready for tonight, and I’m charging my GoPro. All set.
Though I’m not sure how far things will go.
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