Are backpacks really that unpopular?
I always use one because they’re convenient...
I started wondering after watching this club video:
https:\/\/youtu.be\/DmKbfg6bUAo
For the record, I don’t wear a backpack with a suit.
I wear one with casual clothes.
I don’t even own a suit, though. For a first meeting, is wearing a suit still the safest choice?
I’m Fuu, a columnist.
I’m a Type C, and since I want to get the go-ahead that day, I don’t carry a backpack. I try to keep things from a woman’s perspective.
They say a suit makes you look 30% better（笑）. To improve my chances of getting a yes, I wear a suit for the first meeting.
Once we’ve gotten closer as a monthly arrangement, I might dress more casually, but I still wouldn’t carry a backpack.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I didn’t realize backpacks had such a bad reputation.
I prioritize functionality when it comes to bags, so I use an inexpensive three-way business bag that’s convenient for carrying my laptop.
That means I sometimes wear a backpack with my suit, but I’ve never been turned down by a woman I’m seeing because of it.
Though maybe that’s because we don’t really walk around outside together that much…
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I watched that video, and I don’t think the issue was simply that she didn’t want to go to an izakaya with someone carrying a backpack. If a woman is already anxious because she doesn’t know what kind of man will show up, dressing like that can understandably make her think, “Oh, so a strange person really did show up,” and lose trust.
Even if he’s wealthy, deliberately taking a woman to Saizeriya on the first date or intentionally splitting the bill just to see how she reacts makes him seem petty and small-minded.
A backpack with a suit might be acceptable for a salaryman, but I think he should at least have made more of an effort for the first meeting.
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This is Ayase Nana ☆
If he showed up with a backpack, I’d probably just go home.
On the other hand, how would you feel if a woman showed up in jeans with a backpack?
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Any outfit or bag is fine as long as it suits you.
That said, pulling off a backpack is considerably more difficult, so I think very few people can really make one work.
People commonly associated with backpacks are, in particular, those known as “otaku.”
So most people have the image that backpack = otaku ingrained in their minds. The question is whether you can overcome that image.
Everyone knows backpacks are convenient, of course. They leave both hands free, and if you put a steel plate in one, you can even use it for protection. (笑)
But convenience and appearance are two different things.
If you’re comfortable with a backpack, then there’s no need to worry about it. Otaku certainly won’t care.
But since it bothers you enough that you asked about it here, you might want to give up the convenience and avoid using a backpack.
> Is a suit still the safest choice for a first meeting?
Since you’ll be meeting someone younger, I don’t think a suit is necessarily the safest option. Any outfit is probably fine as long as it looks clean and presentable.
When working with somewhat older people, I’ve often heard people at my previous job whispering things like, “Why did they show up dressed like that?” if someone wasn’t wearing a suit.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
A backpack, lol?
As long as it suits you and doesn’t look out of place at a dinner setting, I don’t see a problem with it. That said, a backpack, lol, is a pretty challenging item to pull off, so I’d avoid it. If I were deliberately putting together an outfit around one, I’d have to give it some serious thought, lol.
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A suit looks reasonably good on anyone, but casual clothes really show your sense of style and body type. Add a backpack to the mix, and it becomes especially difficult to pull off. Still, if he looks stylish, I have no complaints.
Marika
I watched the video afterward!
It was hilarious!!!
Showing up to a first date at an izakaya with a backpack—I don’t think you could even get mad after you got home.
Rather than being a video aimed at women, isn’t it actually an awareness video for men like the person asking the question?
And if he’s wealthy, you don’t even know whether the allowance is actually good. If you’d have to force yourself to stay involved, you might as well walk away from the start.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Come to think of it, I use a backpack when I have heavy luggage, but normally I carry a tote bag. I’ve never gone on a date in a suit, but things have been going pretty well.
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