Is it true that the more a man sees someone as his true love, the less sexual desire he feels toward her?
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Maybe it isn’t that his desire fades, but that other things become important too.
With women who aren’t his true love, only the sexual-desire parameter is high, whereas with his true love, all kinds of parameters are high.
I wonder if it only seems like his desire has faded because sex makes up a smaller proportion of the overall relationship.
But if that were the case, wouldn’t so many men not end up in sexless marriages with the woman they truly love—their wives?
Also, as long as I’m active on Universe, am I destined never to be treated as someone’s true love...? How sad.
I’m Fuu, a columnist.
You can still feel sexual desire for your main partner.
There are many reasons why a husband and wife stop having sex. It’s not always just an issue with the man’s sex drive.
If your papa (a male supporter) starts treating you as his main partner in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and develops genuine romantic feelings for you, that sounds like it could get complicated.
There are papas who will treat you well even if you’re not their main partner, so I hope you find someone like that.
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This is only based on my personal experience, so I’m sorry if I’m off the mark.
Rather than someone who tends to put their sexual desires first, I feel truly valued when, even if they want intimacy, they first notice that I might be busy and tired, feeling unwell, or have a lot I want to talk about.
I also feel happy when someone values and thinks about me as a whole person—not just during special moments, but in the ordinary time we spend together, and even in the things we share while apart.
It makes me want to cherish them just as wholeheartedly.
Akari
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I’m a loser of a male member answering this while watching an erotic video.
That’s exactly how it is with my ace—I don’t get particularly sexually aroused.
We have an adult relationship maybe once a month, if that, and we clearly go on regular dates without intimacy much more often.
So, calculated on a pay-per-meeting basis, it came out to ¥1 million per encounter.
I treat her the same way I would a beloved romantic partner.
Sometimes I want to go on a regular date, but my ace will ask to have an adult relationship instead.
The day before yesterday, after we finished our year-end workout, we went together to Atsuta Shrine. I walked her to the convenience store near her place, and we parted without having an adult relationship. So the per-meeting rate may have risen slightly to around ¥1.1 million. (It’s pretty penny-pinching of me to calculate it in the first place＾＾；)
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It depends on what you mean by “the one.”
Generally speaking, I think a spouse and a romantic partner are different kinds of relationships.
That aside, I don’t think being your main partner—the person you care about most—means you stop feeling sexual desire for them.
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