What kind of criteria—or factors—do you consider when deciding, “I’d like to keep seeing this person”? I understand that everyone is different, but I’d love to hear your thoughts. I’m hoping to learn about factors I hadn’t considered and perhaps incorporate them into my own approach.

I’m BB7. I’m probably the type B+ woman who wants to have a long-term arrangement with one man rather than seeing multiple men. As for women who date multiple men and type C/D women, it’s not jealousy so much as being worried about diseases.

I’m Aya, a female member. What matters to me is whether he seems to be seeing many other women—or not. If there are too many, it’s a turnoff—along with our physical compatibility, the allowance, and whether I can respect him as a person. I don’t mind if he’s seeing other women when we first meet, but ideally, the number would gradually decrease as we continue seeing each other. If it doesn’t, I don’t think it would turn into a long-term arrangement.

I’m Fuu, a column writer. This may vary from person to person, but these are just my personal preferences. Age: Around 23–32 Personality: Kind, calm, and genuine Physical chemistry: Comfortable with kissing and hugging, and able to enjoy the experience Build: Height: 158–165 cm 　　　 Weight: height minus 110, ±5 kg Communication: Simply replies when I reach out I prefer a clear-cut adult relationship (intimate). I’m fine with not keeping in touch every day outside of making plans to meet, but I’d like us to spend deeply intimate time together in private. The biggest factor for me is a partner who genuinely enjoys intimacy. More than technique, I find earnestness and thoughtfulness more appealing.

Everyone I meet is wonderful, so the conversation flows and we have enjoyable dates. When it comes to continuing an arrangement, though, I narrow it down to those I have the best physical chemistry with. Paper Airplane

I’m Kazu, a male member. Ultimately, it comes down to whether we enjoy talking together and whether the sex is good. If either one is missing, it won’t last.

I’m a male member and, in my own way, a bit of a loser. In my case, though, I think what matters is: ◎ They trust me. I never pry into a woman’s privacy. Even if she asks me to come to her place, I won’t—not even to drop her off in front of her home. I’m that strict about boundaries. I’ve had plenty of experience with all kinds of things since I was young, so I don’t do anything women dislike. That’s exactly why I want women to come on strong with me. My current top two quickly realized that I’m a safe person and openly shared all kinds of personal information with me. The woman who is effectively number three—my semi-ace—told me a certain secret she had never shared with family or even her closest friends. That made me really happy, so I treat these three differently from the others. Unlike my other monthly arrangements, I’ll sometimes tell them hard truths, and I’ll do everything I can to help with their lives. I’ve helped them look for marriage partners, set up companies, and even get back together after we went our separate ways. Of course, I also help them find jobs. I never make suggestions myself. I simply fulfill whatever they ask for. I suppose I draw things out by encouraging them to tell me about their worries. And even after doing all that, I never interfere with their lives. I don’t step outside my role as a papa—I simply play the perfect number-two man in their eyes. That said, this is just how things work in my case, so generally speaking, it’s best not to share personal information. Only if you find a “safe papa”—someone you can genuinely trust—should you carefully decide whether to reveal your privacy little by little, or rather, show it off strategically. If you get it wrong, you could end up creating a papa who develops genuine romantic feelings, so please be very careful.

I’m in Seattle. First and foremost, it’s about whether the conversation flows and you enjoy talking to each other. By then, you can usually get a pretty good sense of the person before meeting anyway. As for how often we stay in touch, things tend to last when there’s more communication. I don’t message first because I don’t want to bother them, but I reply right away.