Do the women answering here really enjoy living their whole lives as second choice? Even if you say it’s because your papa loves you, unless you marry him, you’ll never share the same grave. And even if you have his child, that child will still be his mistress’s kid and be resented by P’s family. All you get out of it is money, right?
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I don’t think getting married is the ultimate goal of every woman’s happiness, but why are you still doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) without getting married when you’re already at a certain age? What kind of endgame are you aiming for?
I’m Aya, a female member.
Hmm, to begin with, I’m not trying to be my papa’s number one—it sounds exhausting. I’m the type who can feel perfectly happy as long as I have plenty of money and a fulfilling job, so it’s not really an issue for me.
I do have a boyfriend around my age, but I have absolutely no desire to get married. I might be a little unusual, but I’m more of the mindset that having someone I can get along with in my later years would be enough.
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I’m in Seattle.
When I was married, I spent over ¥1 million a month on personal expenses, got berated like a cockroach whenever I didn’t take out the trash properly, and was made to move and buy a new home all over again every year whenever she didn’t like the house. When we divorced, she took ¥100 million from me.
I’m never getting married again. Ever.
Wait… is this actually a good deal for the wife?
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I understand where you’re coming from, and you’re free to feel that way.
But posting something like this here is just a waste of time, in my opinion. It serves no purpose, offers nothing constructive, and takes up other people’s time too.
—Paper Airplane
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I’m columnist Fuu.
Poor thing—the person asking this question is trapped by their own preconceived notions.
People who can naturally have a good balance and get various things in life without unpleasant experiences—money, a boyfriend, and a papa (a male supporter)—usually have at least a certain amount of personal charm. They’re more likely to be liked by both men and women.
Instead of spending time belittling and trashing other people, wouldn’t it be better for you to think about how you can live a happier life? That would be more beneficial for you.
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This is Nana Ayase♡
I have someone more important to me than my papa, so I don’t feel anything about it at all. But it’s really sad that you can only think that way, questioner.
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I’m Rin, a female member of SALON.
Wouldn’t it be better to focus on yourself rather than worry about what other people think? I don’t care what anyone else thinks of me. I chose this for myself, so I have no regrets. I’m not mentally unwell either—I’m in excellent health!
Money is important, so I’m grateful to be able to earn it. I think I can appreciate that it isn’t something to be taken for granted because I also work a regular job, not just through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
If you’re worried about relying solely on this activity in the future, why not quit? There’s no need to force yourself to continue.
I hope you can take things at your own pace and that you meet someone wonderful!
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Those who speak with such a self-satisfied air may seem worldly-wise, but they’re more desperate than anyone. I’d rather just laugh and observe them, though…
And as for you, questioner, there’s no point in speaking from your own standards.
Second place?
Despair?
I don’t place much importance on things like that, so I’m sorry I can’t give you a proper answer.
P.S.
If papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is the only way you can earn money, then I suppose you have no choice but to cling to it. Fortunately, in my real life, I’m blessed with a good job, sufficient income, and fulfilling relationships, so I feel no emptiness whatsoever.
Akari
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I’m a “loser guy” among the male members.
A dating club is a place where two second choices fall in love with each other.
Being number two is being number one.
Number two is the best.
I aim to be the best number two for my monthly arrangements.
Even with my ace, I’m aiming to be number two—I’m not aiming to be number one under any circumstances.
If I started aiming to be number one, I’d probably part ways with my ace before long.
I take the same stance with my other regular partners. I’m forever number two, or perhaps number three.
I think some of my regular partners, including my ace, have come to love me just a little beyond the realm of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because this attitude of mine makes them feel comfortable.
There are married women among the female respondents here, but if they’re married and still do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I imagine they must have felt a certain level of despair about marriage—about becoming someone’s number one—and broken away from it.
And perhaps they think:
“Being number two is the best, right? Being number one—marriage—is nothing but the first step into hell♡”
If I’m wrong, I’m sorry m(_ _)m
What I want isn’t status; it’s love.
What I want from my ace isn’t her body, but her love. That’s why being number two is the best.
If my ace started aiming to make me number one, I think I’d pull away. We can love each other because we’re both number two.
If you want to be number one, you should go to a matchmaking site.
P.S.
For just how disastrous being number one—marriage—can be, let Seattle-san tell you all about it♡
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Some of what you’re saying is right, but a lot of it is off the mark. I don’t live solely off papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so your concern is unnecessary.
At least I’m living a peaceful, enjoyable life every day.
There’s nothing I can do about dying alone.
Marika
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