Some people decide that because they’ve been through terrible experiences and hardships, you’ve never struggled or suffered at all—and that whatever you went through doesn’t count as real suffering.
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Don’t you think everyone has a different capacity for enduring hardship?
How should I deal with people who act as though they’re the only ones in the world who have ever struggled or worked hard...?
Isn’t it much harder—and more admirable—to always act cheerful so that no one realizes how much you’ve been through?
I’m aiming for that refined, well-brought-up young-lady vibe, since girls from privileged backgrounds often give off the impression that they’ve never experienced hardship.
I’m Dai, a male member.
Any hardships people endure for their own sake really aren’t that significant.
The more someone boasts about what they’ve been through, the more likely it is that they were only doing it for themselves in the end.
Just let that kind of talk go in one ear and out the other, and move on to find the next man.
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
She wants attention by saying she’s been through a lot. If you treat her with maturity, I think she’ll be easier to handle. papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a one-person operation, so depending on how you handle things, you could achieve great success.
But if you act like a jerk here, it’ll end in complete failure. Keep her wrapped around your finger.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think the people who become successful are the ones who don’t even see hardship and effort as hardships in the first place. They’re the type who can naturally keep pushing forward.
My papas don’t talk about their struggles, but the past experiences they casually share would seem like incredible hardships from my perspective—or from the perspective of an average person.
To them, though, I imagine those experiences weren’t “hardships” so much as just another obstacle they were expected to overcome.
Keeping that in mind can make it easier to deal with people who constantly emphasize how much they’ve struggled.
You can look at them with pity and think, “This person must have had it tough,” or shower them with praise—“That’s amazing”—and switch into hostess mode. Either way, I think it’s best to interact with them in whatever way leaves you feeling least exhausted, without forcing yourself.
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I’m BB7.
Just say things like:
“I see.”
“That must have been tough.”
“That’s amazing.”
“I really can’t imagine what it must have been like.”
“You were able to get through it because you’re you, right?”
That should satisfy him.
When it comes to this kind of annoying guy, just humor him and think “what an idiot” to yourself.
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