When a papa is fading out, are “I’m too busy to meet for a while” and “I’ll contact you once things settle down” the usual lines, aside from leaving you on unread, reading but ignoring your messages, or blocking you?
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A papa I’d been seeing for a long time messaged me, “I don’t have the emotional capacity right now. I’ll contact you once things settle down.” When we last met, he was saying things like, “When should we meet next?♪” He’s never said anything like this before, so I’m very worried that something unfortunate may have happened to him. Should I avoid sending even year-end or New Year’s greetings and simply trust him and wait, or would it be okay to send a message just to say hello? Of course, only he knows what’s really going on, but I’m feeling very anxious and worried, so I decided to post here.
I’m Nana Ayase ☆
When you’re new to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it can be hard to tell what’s going on, right?
You probably wish they’d just be upfront about it.
You seem like a sweet, straightforward person.
I’m sure you’ll get another offer soon.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
It may be a cliché, but if things had been going on for a long time, there’s a chance it was genuine.
I think it would be best to keep it to a simple New Year’s greeting.
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It’s a common phrase.
Let’s take “I feel like it’s time for us to part ways” as, at the very least, a kindness—rather than simply being ignored.
If you can’t wait for your papa (a male supporter) to contact you and don’t want things to end, try sending him a short message without getting your hopes up.
If he doesn’t reply, it’s unfortunate, but it’s probably best to let go.
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I think that’s a standard line too, so if you do send anything, keep it to a very small amount.
I think it’s best to wait for that slim chance.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
That’s true—some people may use it as a stock phrase. But that doesn’t necessarily mean the man is using it with that intention.
I think it’s fine to message him, even if it’s just to say hello.
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