My papa is asking me for a $500 scarf for Christmas.
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We’ve been seeing each other two or three times a month for about two years, with an allowance of $1,000 per meeting. Last Christmas, he asked me for a $300 key case.
Honestly, I don’t want to give him a gift that costs half my allowance, and since he asked for a $300 key case last year, I asked him for $300 worth of cosmetics in return. Should I ask him for something worth $500 this Christmas too?
It doesn’t really feel worth it, but should I just give it to him as something I have to put up with once a year, thinking about the long term?
By the way, he’ll be overseas during the Christmas season, so we can’t meet (though I don’t know if that’s actually true, lol), and we’re not really the kind of couple who exchange gifts for other events either.
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> An arrangement where I see him two or three times a month for a ¥100,000 allowance each time
That means you’re receiving around ¥2.4–3.6 million a year, so although he may be a bit of an odd papa, I think it would be fine to give him a present too, with the future in mind.
Also, since you’d be exchanging gifts, if you tell him you’d like something worth ¥50,000 as well, you could think of it as breaking even.
With that mindset, it may not feel like such a bad deal after all.
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Whether it’s 30,000 or 50,000 yen, it sounds like you don’t want to spend a single penny on a papa-katsu man.
Even if the pay-per-meeting allowance is high, you’re thinking, “I’m putting up with him and keeping him company, aren’t I?”
Personally, I’d be happy to give about half the allowance back—but I’m more surprised that you’re seeing someone who makes you think, “Don’t expect me to thank you for the allowance. You should be paying me. I wouldn’t give you a single penny.”
That said, I’m pretty put off by making a gift request.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Are you really going to say goodbye to a man who pays ¥100,000 per meeting over something like that?
You don’t come across men willing to give that much allowance very often, so I have to wonder…
You must be an exceptionally attractive woman.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
At first, I thought the papa who asked for a ¥50,000 scarf right off the bat was a bit much, but since you said it wasn’t worth it, I can see why you felt that way lol.
If it’s been going on for two years, I guess you’re a good match lol. Enjoy the back-and-forth over each other’s cost-effectiveness! I learned that this kind of relationship exists too haha.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If a papa (a male supporter) gives me over ¥3 million a year, I’d consider a ¥50,000 gift pretty reasonable. It’s only one-sixtieth, after all.
I’d treat it as a necessary expense.
And if I’m getting a ¥50,000 gift, it would probably even things out anyway.
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I’m in Seattle.
My annual income is ¥3 million. I think I’d be willing to spend ¥50,000 on necessary expenses.
But there’s no point in losing the entire ¥3 million.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t like women who ask for things, but I find men who do it creepy. If a client doing ¥2.4–3.6 million in annual business with me asked for a ¥50,000 gift, I wouldn’t give it to them.
That said, if they were a good customer, I might voluntarily add a ¥50,000 bonus.
Adding this after reading Mac’s answer: Actually, if they gave me gold or securities worth about twice that amount, I’d be happy to give them a gift.
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