Tips Dec 11, 2021 09:46

Men who date female college students or other young women through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) must be looking for some emotional comfort, right? After meeting so many men, I’ve noticed that even though they’re old enough to be my father, they seem to really enjoy it when I talk to them much like I would to someone my own age (I still basically use polite language, but with a more natural intonation and atmosphere). When I tried to consciously use perfectly formal polite language, no one seemed happy about it.

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For example, instead of saying, “You were doing ○○ at that time, weren’t you?” in an extremely formal way, I get the impression that they find it easier to talk when I use polite language that isn’t so stiff, like, “You were doing ○○ back then, right?” I had always thought that, since we’re separated by so many years, it was best to treat them with the utmost politeness. But I’m starting to feel that these men aren’t really looking for that level of formality from a mere female college student.
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Fuu
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Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
I’m Fuu, a columnist. It sounds fun to think about how to make each person completely smitten by varying your approach depending on who they are. That’s something only women can really do. A papa (a male supporter) with a lot of pride may dislike being spoken to casually, while a friendly type may prefer it. Use your imagination, observe him carefully, and give it a try.
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お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private 👨 Male Universe staff
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well. If that’s what you think, then I think you should go ahead and do it.
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Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
I’m in Seattle. I’d prefer it if you spoke casually. Everyone I’ve been seeing for the past two years is like that.
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I’m BB7. Don’t you feel a bit of distance when someone treats you with too much formality? People usually speak to me very politely, so even if someone uses perfect honorific language or flatters me, I don’t find it particularly pleasing—and it’s not something I’m looking for either. Maybe people who aren’t usually treated that way would appreciate it.
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カズ
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I’m Kazu, a male member. So, what’s your question?
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