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Dec 7, 2021 20:43
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I’m currently doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and the papa (a male supporter) I’m with right now is so unbearably unpleasant that I need to vent.
I desperately want to go home, and I’m hiding out in the station restroom, saying I’m feeling sick. I’m terribly sorry to the station staff and anyone waiting for the restroom. My sincerest apologies from inside the JR station restroom.
He’s single and in his 40s (divorced).
His table manners are absolutely awful. He eats so loudly, it’s practically an orchestra made up entirely of percussion instruments.
He has long hair and an untrimmed beard, with absolutely no sense of cleanliness.
I suspect he may have something like ADHD.
Without caring about other people’s eyes, he pokes me in the side with his index finger while saying “boop.” It’s disgusting.
And in bed, he has something the size of a cocktail sausage and keeps thrusting away.
To put it mildly, I really, really can’t stand him!!!!!
I’ve told him things like, “I’m not comfortable around people who have bad table manners.” He says he’s going to take etiquette classes (starting next year, apparently).
I also told him, “This is about how much allowance I usually receive,” quoting double the usual amount. He agreed to pay without a second thought.
He’s an extremely generous (well-paying) papa. But I really can’t stand him.
What should I do? I never want to see him again, and I want to go home today. But money is important too. What should I do, what should I do? Let me go home.
I hate this so much that my stomach is actually starting to growl.
Would it be okay to say I’m feeling sick and go home?
So here’s my question:
What do you do when you have to deal with someone you dislike (but who’s an excellent client)? With this many things I dislike about him, does he really count as a good client?
7 answers
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
What do you mean, “So, here’s my question”? That’s a pretty insulting question.
If you see men as customers, then make an effort to provide good service. Many sex workers work hard for even lower pay, dealing with all kinds of customers.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
If you force yourself, you’ll only attract people who aren’t right for you.
—Paper Airplane
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m in Seattle.
Ayase Nana, I think the divorced one is the man.
They didn’t mention the questioner’s details, though.
Hmm, I guess it depends on how desperate for money you are.
“Pork Bits” are tiny sausages. That made me laugh a little.
A mouth that smells like that is probably still easier to tolerate than one that smells like poop, right?
Other
I’m Rin, a female member of SALON.
I think it ultimately depends on what you want to do. If you really need the money, your options are probably to keep things going as they are or look for someone else.
If you’re genuinely unable to accept him on a physical level, maybe it was never going to work from the start. On the other hand, if you feel you can still manage, and you’re willing to move toward an adult relationship (intimate), perhaps he has some good qualities after all!
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
This is where your instincts really matter. The key question is: “Would I be comfortable continuing to see him?”
If you feel that it’s fine, then I think it’s okay to continue seeing him. If you feel it’s not going to work, it’s perfectly okay to turn him down.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think it’s a mistake to judge people solely by the amount of the allowance.
You only have one body and one mind. If you wear yourself down too much, it can be difficult—or even impossible—to recover.
Other
I’m Ayase Nana♪
You need the money, don’t you?
If I were in the same position, I’d meet him with a smile.
A generous papa means 10 or 20 per pay-per-meeting arrangement, right?
☆ Seattle, thank you for pointing that out.
I’ve corrected it.