I always struggle with choosing a place for the first meeting.
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Is there anything you keep in mind when picking a restaurant?
For a second meeting, I can usually find somewhere by asking the woman what she likes.
But what should I do for the first one?
I find myself overthinking things like whether a private room might feel intimidating, or whether it would actually be better because we’d have more privacy. I always end up agonizing over it.
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
My offer is Type C, so the first meeting is always in a private room because that’s where we discuss the terms of the arrangement.
With app-based papa-katsu, I often hear women say they’re scared of meeting in a private room the first time because they don’t know what kind of papa (male supporter) will show up.
But here at Universe Club, I don’t think women need to feel as worried about private rooms. The club is involved, conducts at least a basic interview, and has their identification details on file.
I regularly keep a list of nice private-room restaurants suitable for papa-katsu and entertaining guests.
When trying out a new restaurant, I research it in advance and only add it to my list after confirming that it’s appropriate for papa-katsu and entertaining.
Even after the second meeting, I choose a private or semi-private room whenever possible. I want to enjoy a relaxed meal without worrying about other people watching.
Since I can’t compete with other papas in terms of looks or financial resources, I see meals as where I can really show my strengths—and I prepare accordingly.
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I’m Saito, a columnist♪
I absolutely love counter seating, so I don’t like private rooms. Haha.
I think it really depends on the person.
A lot of celebrities say private rooms feel like jail cells and that they’d prefer a counter if possible.
It depends on the quality of the restaurant, but at places that attract a lot of celebrities—including those keeping a low profile—you can generally sit at the counter.
Counter seating can be a double-edged sword, so I think the atmosphere is important.
Trying to copy what I do could get you into trouble.
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This is Joe.
I don’t think Joe himself has ever taken anyone to a hotel buffet, but it seems to have a pretty bad reputation. I had no idea.
I usually arrange to meet in the hotel lobby. I try to keep things as easy to understand as possible. We have tea in the lounge, where we introduce ourselves, then head to the restaurant I booked. When I make the offer, I leave a message along the lines of, “I’m planning to take you to [restaurant name], but if you have any other requests, please let me know.”
When choosing a restaurant, I prioritize ease of getting there. I often take a taxi, but if we’re walking, I keep it within five minutes.
Hope this helps.
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I’m Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu, and I’ll answer this as well.
I think it’s a good idea to choose a restaurant with private rooms.
Private rooms make it easier to become intimate, and they also seem more likely to have a pleasant atmosphere.
I hadn’t really heard of hotel buffets either, but maybe women simply don’t say anything about them?
When it’s a family restaurant, izakaya, beer garden, or somewhere similar, women often quickly message to say they were disappointed. And when it’s a good restaurant, they’ll contact you about that too.
With a buffet, though, maybe they decide it’s not bad enough to complain about, even if they feel like doing so?
At first, I thought I wasn’t hearing anything because nobody was using them in the first place.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Other than cluttered-looking places, family restaurants, and izakayas, I don’t think you can go too far wrong if it’s somewhere that costs at least ¥10,000 for two and is the kind of place that charges a service fee. It’s also a good idea to ask in advance whether it has private rooms or regular seating.
That said, I’m surprised so many people suggested hotel buffets. I’ve never been invited to one for a first meeting. I wonder why… Maybe it’s just coincidence.
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Sorry to rain on your parade, but I absolutely hate buffets. Some people feel that way, so I think it’s best to check with her first.
Marika
As an additional note, the restaurant itself matters, of course, but I feel that the distance from the station, how you’ll get there if you’re going to a hotel, and the overall route are even more important.
Honestly, I’d cry if I had to walk over cobblestones in stilettos.
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Whenever I have some free time, I walk around town checking out how popular and busy different restaurants are, along with their exteriors and interiors, looking for places that catch my eye.
Then I make a point of trying out a few of those places that day or sometime afterward.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Sometimes I choose a private room, and other times I go with a hotel buffet.
For women who seem especially concerned about being recognized, I tend to choose a private room.
For women who seem to have a lot of likes and dislikes when it comes to food, I usually opt for a hotel buffet.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I usually book a private room. Since private rooms at restaurants aren’t as enclosed as hotel rooms, I don’t think they make people feel uncomfortable or scared. I also make sure to mention in the offer message, “I’ve reserved a private room at [restaurant] for [time],” so they know in advance that it’s a private room.
I choose the food based on the information in their profile.
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