Every time we go on a date or out for a meal, my papa waits until we meet and then asks, “Where should we eat?” or “Where should we go today?”
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I often end up walking around with him because the nearby places we want to try either don’t accept walk-ins or are already full.
I’ve asked him things like, “Could you make a reservation in advance?” and “It might be better to reserve a place from now on,” but maybe it isn’t getting through because he still decides what to do on the spot every time.
What are the papas here like?
Personally, I’d like to know the destination in advance because it affects what clothes and shoes I wear. What do the other women think?
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here as well.
At this point, I think you should be prepared for the possibility of breaking up and say something like, “I’ll make the reservation,” then create an account on the booking site while you’re together.
(Of course, only with the man’s consent.)
That way, since you’ll know the password you created, you should be able to make reservations.
It may seem a little pushy, but perhaps he’s simply worried that you might cancel at the last minute, or finds making reservations troublesome or embarrassing if he’s not used to doing it. The hurdle may just seem too high.
He might even think, “Well, I suppose it’s fine if she makes the reservation for me instead.”
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I usually make reservations for dinner. But for lunch, I go to my usual restaurant near the hotel, so I don’t make a reservation.
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If he’s someone you’d like to continue seeing in other ways, I think you should make the restaurant reservation for him.
If you feel like you don’t want to go that far yourself, then maybe you don’t really want to continue seeing him—so I think it’s best to end things.
Because of the current COVID situation, almost all of my papas make the reservations themselves.
With the papa I see for a hotel followed by dinner, we search together in bed, decide where to go, then call and head out.
Marika
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I thought this was about me when I read the first two lines.
Then I read the third line and felt relieved…
Does the man you’re seeing care about food, or not? Which is it?
If it were me, I’d have already tried 40–50 restaurants in the area, so I’d know their busy hours and how good they are—and I wouldn’t drag someone around from place to place.
Among the restaurants you’ve been to with him, isn’t there one you’d like to visit again? If so, just say, “I’d like to go here again” when he invites you. He should make the reservation.
If not, you could either give up, or make the reservation yourself—or even look for a restaurant.
In my case, if the girl doesn’t care much about food, I’ll make the reservation myself, choose the restaurant, and ask her if she’d like to go there. But if she’s particular about food or a real foodie who can appreciate good taste, deciding which restaurant to go to is both important and part of the fun. Searching for one together becomes an event in itself.
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I’m columnist Fuu.
I always make reservations for both the meal and the room. If you don’t handle things smoothly, your monthly arrangement partner may lose interest.
If you’ve asked him to change and he still won’t, and you can’t put up with it anymore, it may be best to end things.
If you’re not quite ready to break things off, how about dressing comfortably—like wearing pants and sneakers—so you can walk around easily?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I always make a reservation in advance.
However, once we’ve been seeing each other for a while, we sometimes grab something casual to eat after sex. In those cases, I may not make a reservation.
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I’m Joe.
I’m well aware that, to put it kindly, my manners and demeanor aren’t exactly polished. That’s why, whenever I invite someone out to eat, I always make a reservation—no exceptions. I do occasionally get lost or mix up the reservation time, though. *苦笑*
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I’m Nana Ayase ☆
Most people make a reservation, but a small number don’t, leaving me walking around. Once, on a rainy day, we hadn’t decided where to meet, and my favorite shoes were ruined.
I don’t see people like that. No matter how many pairs of shoes I owned, it would never be enough.
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