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I’m a woman in my late twenties and used to be a member here, but I met a generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter), so I left the site.
That said, I still have a regular day job.
I’m confused, so I’d like to ask for your advice. My company president asked if I would become his mistress, saying that he likes me…
It sounds like something out of a strange drama, and I can’t even process it myself.
Starting next fiscal year, I’ll be transferred to another department, so I won’t be working at the same company as the president anymore. Since I’ll be based in a different area, I probably won’t see him much at all. I wonder if he brought it up at this point because we’ll be able to meet without worrying about what people around us think.
First of all, I know that the president is making a fool of me.
However, he offered me an amount far higher than what I make through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so I’m really torn. It’s about five months’ worth of my salary…
What would you do in my position?
I feel like accepting might break something inside me, but I also have debt, so I desperately need the money.
There are many people here who are company presidents, so I’d also appreciate hearing your perspective. Presidents, do you often make advances toward your employees? Is this a common thing?
Thank you in advance.
I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
I’d turn this down immediately. There’s nothing but risk involved.
If you’re going to do it, you’d need to set yourself up as a business and accept it in that capacity; otherwise, it could be treated as cheating, which is dangerous.
If you’re unsure enough to ask about it here, I honestly think you should avoid crossing this kind of dangerous line in the first place. You probably won’t be able to control the situation, and it’ll only end badly.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I think it’s fairly common for not just company presidents but executives as well to get involved with female employees.
I’ve actually met a woman through Universe who was being kept by a company president.
She liked him, but fully understood that she was his mistress.
Apparently, he traveled all over the country, so when she couldn’t see him, she wanted to find a man she could spend time with because she felt lonely.
However, she said she didn’t need foreplay and wanted me to penetrate her right away, so we parted ways.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
It’s not unusual for a company president to get involved with an employee. I’ve even been consulted by the president of a listed company whose subsidiary president had made advances to every female employee. So there’s nothing strange at all about what you described.
If you need the money and you personally feel comfortable with it, I say accept all of the offers. It’s not like you’re making it public, so what society thinks doesn’t really matter. For now, I think it’s enough to judge things based on just two factors: how profitable it is and whether you’re personally okay with it. On top of that, if you add some calculating, strategic thinking—how sustainable it is, whether there are any risks, and so on—you may be able to maximize your earnings over the medium to long term.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
Isn’t “don’t get involved with your employees” just basic common sense?
Well, sorry—maybe I’m old-fashioned, haha.
Ultimately, it’s something you have to decide for yourself, but a company president I know once hired his favorite girl as a receptionist. He paid her an absurdly high salary and told her she didn’t actually have to do any work. She could take time off whenever she wanted, and when there were no visitors, she was free to play games or read manga.
Even so, she eventually quit because she found the job unfulfilling. Once she went out into the real world, she realized how little career experience she’d gained and how naïve she’d become in such a sheltered environment. Her peers made fun of her, and she said it was so humiliating that she went through enough hardship to end up resenting her former boss, haha.
Everyone has a certain dignity, and society expects people to build careers and gain experiences appropriate for their age. Taking that away from someone could be said to mean you aren’t truly thinking about what’s best for them, haha. You’re the protagonist of your own life, and you’re the one who should be in control of it. The choice is yours, too! Hang in there.
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I’m columnist Fuu.
Beforehand, make sure to ask the company president about your concerns.
You’ll do your best not to get caught, but also confirm what he would think if his wife or the company found out, and so on.
Also, carefully make sure there are no discrepancies in the terms, then take your time weighing the risks and rewards before deciding.
“Great men are fond of romance.”
I’ve met all kinds of company presidents, and they’re all pretty active, so I’d say it’s certainly possible.
That said, having a lover outside the company is probably safer...
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I’m Nana Ayase ☆
My company president suggested the same thing to me the other day, but I was terrified it might get found out, so I quit my job right away.
If you’re absolutely sure no one around you will find out, then becoming his mistress might be okay. But if there’s a chance it’ll come to light… I’d personally pass. You could lose both your job and your reputation.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
I think you should give it a try. There may be some kind of trap, but as they say, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained.”
That said, you should mentally prepare yourself so you’ll be able to deal with anything that might happen.
If it turns out your concerns were unnecessary, then all the better.
By the way, not just in this case, receiving the allowance afterward is risky, so you should also be careful about hidden audio and video recording.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
You say, “I know I’m being looked down on,” as if to protect yourself, but the way you excitedly report that you’re earning five times your day-job salary makes it very clear that your heart is being swayed by the money.
How much debt do you have? If you’ve found a generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter) but still haven’t been able to pay it off, then either the amount must be considerable, or you may have a spending habit. If we knew which was the case, it would be easier to think through your options more specifically.
If you’re dealing with a large debt and struggling to keep up with the daily repayments, it might be better to pay it off even if that means becoming a company president’s mistress.
Even if you temporarily quit your day job and become his mistress, and things don’t work out, you’re still around thirty, so it’s not as though you won’t be able to find another job.
On the other hand, if you can gradually repay the debt with the allowance from your current generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter) and a stable day job, I think that would be the better choice.
In any case, I recommend thinking through several concrete possible paths for your life.
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I’m not sure how large the company is, but I have a friend who is the wife of a subsidiary president at a certain famous corporate group. She used a private investigator to track down her husband’s mistress, properly collected compensation from the other woman, and now keeps her husband on a tight leash.
Please keep in mind that risks like this do exist when you’re considering the situation.
Marika
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I’m in Seattle.
You only live once, so I think you should give it a try—it could be interesting.
That said, if he’s a CEO you can’t respect as a person and all he does is harass people, then I guess you have to weigh that against the money.
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