My current papa gives me a reasonable allowance, and I don’t have any particular complaints, but if possible, I feel like I’d like to upgrade. He’s not top-tier—more like second-tier. How can I tell whether I’m capable of dating a top-tier papa?
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For now, I’m thinking of ending things with everyone and starting fresh.
Among the girls you’re seeing, what kind of girl makes you think, “This girl would be liked by any papa,” or “She has the potential to date someone better than the person I’m seeing now”?
I’d appreciate your advice.
It all depends on the person you’re with, for both men and women.
Whether they truly flourish can also depend on you.
I hope you find a papa (a male supporter) who can inspire you and bring out the best in each other.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
How would you feel if a man you were dating said, “You’re second-rate, so I’d like to upgrade you to a first-rate PJ”?
If you want to date a first-rate man, you should start by correcting the fact that you use the word “upgrade” when talking about people.
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I’m Nana Ayase☆
The moment you start calling papas “first-rate” or “second-rate,” I think that makes you third-rate or worse.
You certainly have a foul mouth.
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I’m BB7.
I’m not sure I understand the difference between first-rate and second-rate, but aside from looks, I’d say it comes down to:
- Being classy
- Being intelligent
- Not labeling papas as “first-rate” or “second-rate”
Something along those lines, maybe?
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I’m Aya, a female member.
> Whether I can date a top-tier papa
Aside from needing a certain level of looks, I think it comes down to whether she has the skills to make him genuinely fall for her—and whether she herself works hard, lives honestly, and puts real effort into her relationships and career. Women who live straightforwardly and passionately, without betraying others, tend to be well-liked by papas.
I’ve noticed the same thing watching hostesses in Ginza. Girls who were always scheming and trying to bring others down tended to hit a ceiling in sales, while those who became number one or reached mama status were often genuinely good people.
Business owners tend to be mature, well-rounded people, so you can’t fool them with superficial tricks. Shallow character gets exposed right away. So in the end, I think the key to finding a good papa is to work on your own character.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Meeting the right person also involves luck, so it’s hard to say for sure.
How do you get a product to sell? It’s similar to coming up with a marketing strategy.
Research what kind of women this so-called top-tier papa (a male supporter) prefers, and think carefully about your own strengths, weaknesses, what you can and can’t do.
Of course, looks are expected to be above average, but I get the impression that women who are young yet worthy of respect as people—pure, honest, and genuinely grateful—tend to be highly valued.
I’d love to hear how far you, as the opposite of what a discerning top-tier papa is looking for, can keep up the act and see it through.
If you’d like, please share your progress along the way and the results here on the site as a column.
I’ll be looking forward to it.
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I’m in Seattle.
> “You have the potential to date someone better than yourself.”
> ⇒ It’s about whether you have the skill to make your papa mistakenly believe you genuinely like him.
The women who could pull that off have earned up to ¥10 million in total—about three of them so far. If they can get ¥10 million out of me, even though I’m just a regular generous papa, then doing the same with the ultra-wealthy could be priceless.
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There’s no such thing as “second-rate” when it comes to someone who gives you an allowance and experiences far beyond what you could reasonably expect.
Shouldn’t you focus on becoming richer, wiser, and a better person yourself first?
I see women posting questions calling their papas second-rate or merely “a little wealthy,” but the real question is: could you reach that level on your own?
Akari
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t know what makes someone a top-tier papa, but after reading your question, I couldn’t help feeling that you’re a delusional, second-rate type yourself.
Work on becoming a better version of yourself so you can attract a top-tier papa.
I hope you find a good match.
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