She told me she no longer feels that way and doesn’t need an allowance, but I felt uneasy and kept giving it to her anyway. Now, ironically, things between us have started to become awkward.
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I want to maintain my connection with her.
However, I have a family, and I feel it would be dangerous not to keep clear boundaries.
What should I do?
Should I cut ties with her after all?
I’m confused because this is a situation I never imagined before joining the club.
I’m Saito, a columnist♪
On the contrary, things have started to get awkward.
→ I think that’s already a bad sign.
You should end it quickly and move on to someone new.
In a normal, sensible relationship between a man and a woman, I don’t think things would usually become problematic.
In my view, it’s best to walk away as soon as it looks like trouble might arise.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Why do you think things have become awkward even though you’re still giving her the same allowance as before? Maybe that’s something to think about.
It could be that you’ve become more self-conscious, and your behavior has changed without realizing it.
Another option would be to stop giving an allowance from now on and instead give her plenty of gifts.
Changing the arrangement in some way like that might work too.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
Men aren’t allowed in the “Honori Championship,” but you’ve certainly managed to claim the top spot, haven’t you? LOL
Honestly, I’m beyond jealous—I’m impressed!
What should I do?
I wanna be able to say that too! I wanna have that problem too!
Sorry, I got a little carried away (T_T) As for my advice: for starters, end things with your girlfriend and focus on protecting your family.
And if possible, could you refrain from these activities for a while and help protect the activities of us male members too?
LOL
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I’m Nana Ayase ☆
If things are already feeling awkward, they’re not going to move forward in a positive direction.
There are plenty of wonderful women out there, so try looking elsewhere too. If you keep seeing the same woman for years… you’ll end up becoming friends.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Regardless of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), when a married person pursues a relationship outside their marriage, it inevitably comes with some sacrifices.
It’s impossible to both inspire enough love for a woman to want to marry you and maintain your family life at the same time—because the end is obvious: “If you won’t marry me, I’m leaving!”
In papa-katsu, neither person develops that level of love; instead, money is used to maintain a moderate level of affection. So once either person crosses the line, it becomes difficult to keep the arrangement going.
My advice to you would be to gradually reduce how often you meet, using your family responsibilities as the reason, and try to return to the mutually convenient relationship you had before. If she accepts that, you’ve succeeded. If she doesn’t, your only option is to end things.
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I’m in Seattle.
You’re quite popular, questioner. lol
If he’s married, then I suppose it really is difficult to develop genuine feelings. All you can do is look him in the eyes sincerely, tell him you care about him, and ask him to keep things as they are.
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