I was seeing a girl I really liked for six months, but she suddenly messaged me saying she didn’t want to see me anymore.
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She hasn’t blocked me on LINE, so I can still contact her. I want to ask if we can meet one more time and talk so I can understand why. How have you successfully convinced someone who was leaving you to stay? And what approaches should I avoid? If meeting her doesn’t work out, I’ll give up.
This is Nana Ayase ♡
Even if you ask why, you can’t stop them from leaving,
and things will feel awkward the next time you meet.
So, I got cut off yesterday too (lol).
I’m all alone again (tears).
If you’ve ended up alone too, let’s look for someone new.
There are tons of women out there, right? Let’s move on.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
The wrong move is asking why and trying to change their mind. Since they’ve said they can’t meet, it’s best to let it go.
Next, make plenty of offers and look for someone even better suited to you.
P.S.
If they haven’t blocked you on LINE, consider yourself lucky. Don’t press the issue—just stay in touch casually, without being pushy. There’s a chance they may come back. The odds are extremely low, but they’re not zero.
After COVID restrictions ended, two women I had dated three years ago—one who had dumped me and one I had broken up with—had moved away but later told me they wanted to see me again, so both arrangements resumed.
I liked both of them reasonably well, so I was happy that things restarted after they had said they couldn’t meet and we’d gone our separate ways.
The key is to keep your expectations low and your LINE messages infrequent—about once every three months—so that if they do come back, it feels like a lucky break.
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I'm Flag Maker, a columnist.
You're not the only one who's had that kind of experience. I've been through it too.
Let's all hang in there. I'm sure there are plenty of people in the same boat.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
You say you want to know the reason, but you’re also trying to convince her to stay. From the woman’s perspective, there’s really no benefit to explaining her reasons.
If you genuinely only want to know why and use it to improve in the future, I don’t think there’s any need to meet.
If your main goal is to convince her not to leave, then keep in mind that she’s already told you her decision. It probably won’t be reversed.
She likely had been giving you signs all along—you just failed to notice them.
I understand how you feel, but you should look for someone new.
And with the next woman, think carefully about how you can treat her better so you don’t repeat the same mistakes, then put it into practice.
Though, in most cases, the real reason was probably that the allowance was too low.
But I doubt you’d be satisfied with that answer.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
My guess is that she either found another great papa (a male supporter) or boyfriend, has already saved up the amount she was aiming for, or has simply reached the point where she can’t bring herself to go on dates with older men anymore.
If there were any benefit to meeting you, she’d be seeing you without you having to say anything. So if she doesn’t want to meet, the downsides must outweigh the benefits by a lot. Unfortunately, anything you do is likely to be pointless—or worse, the more you insist that you want to see her, the more she’ll come to dislike you.
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It’s Joe.
Please give up before meeting him. There’s almost no chance you’ll accept it once you know the reason, and you could end up seriously hurt. It’s not good for your mental health.
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