Men who are harsh toward women tend to offer low allowances (like 50,000 yen), while men who are kind to female questioners offer higher allowances, right?
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Why do men who are harsh toward women offer such low allowances?
I mean, offering only 50,000 yen when they drive a Ferrari is unbelievable.
And why don’t other women point out this contradiction, while criticizing generous supporters behind their backs? I really don’t understand.
I want to study psychology and become a stronger woman in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so please explain it to me.
I’m the “loser guy” among the male members.
I skimmed the original question because it wasn’t really taking enough digs at me to be interesting, but since I showed up in one of the answers, here I am.
I’m not particularly fond of “marketing” as a lazy buzzword people use to stop thinking, but since I make my living in what the world calls marketing, I’ll boldly use the term here.
One of the most basic principles of marketing is to choose a single individual as your target and decide your strategy accordingly. This became famous as the strategy of the hard rock band KISS, right?
In other words, everyone else can be an anti-fan. (Though this hardly needs explaining,) targeting a broad audience means competing on thin margins and relying on volume.
When I look at my own answer, my sole target is the man who thinks:
“I didn’t know the going rate for an adult relationship, so I’d just been giving her ¥50,000. Oh, so that’s considered low? I’ve got a decent amount of money, so maybe I’ll try giving her ¥70,000 from next time.”
As long as my words resonate with that one man, I’m perfectly happy for everyone else to be an anti-fan. After all, having no anti-fans is what you call competing on thin margins and relying on volume.
That’s why I’m happy whenever people disagree with me or take digs at me.
Oh, but weren’t we supposed to have a mutually beneficial relationship with Flag Maker? Am I your enemy? (lol)
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Does it really come across that way?
I thought I seemed gentle with female questioners and harsh with male questioners…
I’m Paper Airplane, and I’m probably the one with the lowest allowance and the longest dates among the respondents.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
You said you wanted to study psychology, but your wording was rather critical, so I revised the question.
That said, if you really want to study psychology, I feel this is pretty basic.
Please keep working hard and study more.
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This is Nana Ayase ♡
An allowance of 50,000 yen isn’t low at all—it’s actually on the generous side.
A lot of people offer 30,000 yen.
As for whether Makeotoko-san is telling the truth or joking, that’s up to you, the questioner, to decide whether you believe him.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
> I often see female respondents defending male respondents who offer low allowances.
I’ve never defended anyone.
I believe allowances are determined by supply and demand, so I don’t think I have the right to comment on other people’s allowance arrangements.
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I don’t judge people based on whether their allowance is high or low.
It’s just that long messages with absolutely no follow-through can sometimes make me suspicious.
And I don’t think 50,000 yen is low at all.
Akari
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
First of all, it seems the questioner doesn’t really understand what kindness and strictness mean. I believe that when someone with no connection to the questioner points out their shortcomings harshly, it ultimately comes from a place of kindness.
There are several reasons why my allowance is 50,000 yen, but the biggest one is that most women say 50,000 yen is fine. I ask women what they’re hoping for before offering 50,000 yen, and I don’t haggle. I don’t think an allowance is something you should bargain over, either.
Also, I don’t think the car someone drives has anything to do with the amount of their allowance. For example, one respondent says he usually eats at Yoshinoya, but apparently gives a five-figure allowance or more. There doesn’t seem to be any connection between someone’s everyday meals and the amount of their allowance, so there’s no contradiction at all.
To begin with, why should anyone care how much someone else’s allowance is?
I’m not aware of high-paying respondents being disliked or unfairly bad-mouthed online, but if that is happening, I think it’s because simply paying a high allowance—or being “kind to women,” as the questioner puts it—doesn’t necessarily make someone a good person in the eyes of female respondents.
In other words, what the questioner sees and what the female respondents see are probably very different.
I don’t think this is a matter of psychology.
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I have said that I’d like Makeotoko to write something accurate, because I can’t tell what’s true when he exaggerates so much about himself—whether it’s meant to be fake or not. But I have never mentioned the content of any other respondents’ answers or Makeotoko’s answers.
And this isn’t particularly meant as an insult or complaint, so I think it’s fine to post it under my real name.
The amount of the allowance doesn’t matter to me anyway—I’m not the one receiving it.
Marika
I took the trouble to write it, and it got deleted (sob).
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
For some reason, women can be especially hard on other women. I think that may be part of the reason, albeit indirectly.
And sometimes they just come across as unpleasant. Maybe it’s something along those lines, haha.
Though I’m not exactly in a position to criticize others.
Besides, I’ve never seen anyone diss Saito, even online.
Oh, right—and people who offer high allowances are basically my enemies, haha. They might steal my girls, which is a matter of survival for me.
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This is Joe.
What I don’t understand at all is the questioner’s phrase, “Why would you bad-mouth someone in the air?” The wording may be perfectly normal among the questioner’s generation or people around them, and perhaps it’s a term they’re naturally expected to know.
Joe’s advice is: “There are plenty of things you should do before studying psychology.”
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