I have an unforgettable papa (a male supporter) whom I met here.
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Whenever we traveled together, he gave me an allowance for an adult relationship (intimate), but even when we stayed in the same room, he never made a move, saying, “Today is just a trip.” At restaurants, airports, and other places, he always said “Thank you” to the staff. He was a truly wonderful papa I could sincerely respect. He was also very kind to me, and his allowance was generous (well-paying).
It’s been several months since he suddenly ended things, but I still can’t forget him.
I’ve met a few other men since then, but the more men I meet, the more I realize how wonderful he was, which only makes things harder.
When he ended things, he told me, “It’s not like we’ll never see each other again.” I want to believe those words and reach out to him, but my fingers start shaking whenever I try to type a LINE message.
Still, I don’t want to regret it, so I’d like to work up the courage to invite him to meet. What kind of message should I send?
I’d really appreciate your advice.
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
When you’re traveling, the change of scenery can make H feel better than usual, so you may end up doing it more often.
I’m a papa-katsu papa who can’t help himself, Fuu.
Depending on your papa’s reasons and how much time has passed, you should decide whether it’s better to hold back and wait without contacting him, or whether it’s okay to reach out.
If you have a reason why you absolutely can’t meet even if he contacts you, he may start to dislike hearing from you.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
With that trembling finger, press the send button. There’s no single right way to write something, is there? What you need here is the courage to hit send.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
“Hi, it’s been a while♪ How have you been? I’m doing well at ○○ as usual! ← Add a brief update about work or something similar. If you’re available, would you like to get together for dinner sometime—even if it’s just dinner?” Something along those lines, perhaps.
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I’m Rin, a female member of the salon.
I’m glad you were able to meet someone wonderful.
Why not simply tell him how happy you were to meet him and what you’re thinking? Since you’ve made such a meaningful connection, I’d reach out at least once rather than doing nothing and saying goodbye. If it doesn’t work out, you may be able to let go more easily—and if you get to see him again, that would be lucky.
If you’ve met someone truly wonderful, I think it’s worth cherishing that connection.
Good luck!
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If you understand that a man usually won’t be the one to call it quits unless something serious has happened, I think it’s okay to reach out.
I’d say there’s a 1–9% chance.
—Paper Airplane
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
I think it depends on whether you want to receive an allowance from him again, or whether you simply want to see him more than you want the allowance.
It also probably depends on why he ended things with you.
For example, if he ended it because the generous allowance was becoming difficult for him, you could try saying:
“I don’t need an allowance—would you take me out for a meal?”
On the other hand, if he ended things because you were starting to develop serious feelings, you might say:
“I’m short on money this month. Would you be able to see me? I’m fine with any amount of allowance.”
That might work too.
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I’m a male member and, honestly, a bit of a loser.
I may be unusual, but whenever a woman asks to get back together, I usually give it another chance at least once.
Last month, I got back together with an amazing oral-sex partner, and this month, with my former top favorite.
To the person asking the question: work up the courage and send him a LINE message. There are papas like me, too.
Something along these lines should work:
“Long time no see. How have you been?
I’m doing great♪
I found a delicious restaurant, so would you like to have lunch sometime?
Don’t be on guard—I’m not asking to get back together lol”
Just don’t say something like, “I’m lonely.”
By telling him, “I’m doing well,” you can make him wonder, “Huh? Isn’t she lonely without me?”—and shake him up a little.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
The more smoothly a man dates, the less he likes clingy women.
If you really want to stay in touch, keep your LINE messages to simple greetings.
Still, aside from conversations about the allowance, there seem to be other men like that as well.
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