I’ve only met my papa four times, and even though I never told him my real name and he never asked, he suddenly called me by it during dinner—with “-chan” added to my first name. He brushed it off by changing the subject, but it really creeps me out.
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The only explanation I can think of is that he went through my bag without permission while I was showering. What makes it worse is that this happened on the day we first became intimate, during our third date. I realized partway through that I’d forgotten to bring my bag into the shower room, but I couldn’t be bothered to go back for it, so I showered anyway. I feel like that was my mistake.
When I’m coming straight from work, my employee ID and other things are in my bag, as well as a commuter pass showing the station closest to my home, so this honestly scares me. Maybe he saw my name on my credit card, but I have no idea how he found out.
It hasn’t turned into an actual problem yet, but what should I do?
At this point, I can only think that it’s creepy, but I’m also scared that suddenly blocking him might somehow make things worse.
I’m Dai, a male member.
There’s really no other way to put it—you let your guard down.
Since you’ll probably have no choice but to end things, if you met him through the club, why not consult Universe Police?
As they look into the details of the trouble, the man will probably deny everything, and it may just turn into a he-said-she-said situation. Still, it might serve as some deterrent to him.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
That’s creepy. It’s good that you’re staying alert instead of dismissing it as a coincidence or imagining things. That said, there are all kinds of possibilities, including their motives. If you’re still interested in pursuing things after finding out what’s going on, it may be worth looking into. Otherwise, I’d cut ties quickly.
As for how to do that, I don’t recommend blocking them. They could be a psychopath who thinks, “How dare you block me!” It’s better to fade out without blocking them or replying. Even if they get angry, they’ll assume their messages can still reach you since they haven’t been blocked, so they may send something that reveals the warning signs. You don’t need to mark the messages as read—just preview them by holding down on them and take screenshots so you have evidence.
I think blocking someone is like closing your eyes. I understand not wanting to see unpleasant things, but if you close your eyes during an argument, you’ve already lost. If you think someone might be dangerous, all the more reason to stay vigilant and not look away.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
If your claims are correct, then what your papa is doing is dangerously close to being criminal. I think you should consult the club about it.
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As the men have said, that’s pretty much right. It also feels like your mind is already made up.
This isn’t directly related to your question, but lately, many of the neat-looking business hotels have bathrooms where there’s no separate changing area behind the door. Some even have a washing area, like a bathroom at home.
Love hotels don’t have changing areas either, but the doors may be made of transparent glass, or the bathroom itself may be completely visible (lol), so you can’t really do anything suspicious there anyway.
In that sense, it might be a good idea for the gentlemen to use a proper city hotel so no one gets the wrong idea. This time, though, the questioner was also being careless by forgetting to bring it along.
Marika
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Because there are idiots like this papa, I always stop women if they’re about to leave their valuables behind when they go take a shower and say:
“Please take your valuables with you.”
It’s a difficult judgment call, but try sending him this on LINE:
“How did you find out my real name? I’m a woman, so honestly, I’m scared. I’m still shaking. Since there’s nothing I can do about you finding out, please send me a photo of your driver’s license on LINE. That would only be fair. If you can’t send it, then let’s end things. I’ll report you to the club as well. I really enjoyed our time together, so this is truly disappointing.”
— Loser Guy
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
That’s seriously creepy. I don’t think you should meet him under those circumstances, so I’d suggest consulting the club and blocking him.
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This is Joe.
If you feel disgusted, there’s no way to continue. Cutting off contact will solve pretty much everything. Don’t overthink it—blocking them is your best option.
That said, on very rare occasions, you may come across someone so completely unreasonable that none of your common sense gets through to them. In that case, don’t hesitate to take firm action. Depending on the situation, consulting the police or a lawyer may also be an option.
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I’m in Seattle.
That’s pretty creepy. If you’re going to cut things off, you might as well do it now. At this point, he’ll probably figure out why.
If he’s a generous papa, though, you could just keep things transactional and dive in more deeply.
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