Female members can send reverse offers to male respondents they like by emailing the administrator to express their interest. Male members can learn which female members are interested in them by answering questions and sharing their opinions.
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📅 Nov 10, 2018 09:27
Could you add data showing the current number of offers to women aged 40 and over? It may be a difficult figure to identify, but I would appreciate the annual total number of offers made to older women. Thank you in advance.
💬 Answer from Responder:
Mochizuki from System Administration here.
The period covered is October 1, 2017, through October 31, 2018.
Number of offers to older women: 192
Number of dates that actually took place: 178
With 33,810 offers made over the year, the offer rate was 0.57%.
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📅 Nov 9, 2018 22:36
I’m a female college student considering starting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). After doing some research, I understood papa-katsu to mean going shopping or out to eat with someone who becomes your papa (a male supporter) in exchange for receiving money. However, as I looked through various articles and social media posts, I started wondering whether having an intimate relationship might actually be considered the norm. I kn...
💬 Answer from ジョー・ルビコン:
I’m Joe, a column writer.
Leaf’s answer covers almost everything, so there’s very little I can add, but I’ll respond from the men’s perspective.
Leaf may have been being a little modest by saying “the majority,” but I think it’s safer to assume it’s “almost everyone.” Of course, there are also male members who are genuinely only interested in meals or shopping. One example I know is a respected business owner in his seventies who enjoys spending time with younger women in a…
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📅 Nov 9, 2018 17:08
Since joining, Christmas has gotten busier every year. I imagine quite a few members, both men and women, have to double-book themselves day after day. Now that I’m over 50, I don’t eat as much, and having to sit down for two celebratory meals a day is pretty exhausting. How do you all manage it?
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, a columnist ♪
I tell them:
“Don’t spend Christmas with someone like me—go see your boyfriend and enjoy your time with him.”
Or:
“Spend it with another papa and tell me how it went. I’m not very used to special occasions.”
Then, a few days later, around the 26th or 27th, we take our time having a Christmas-themed meal.
We might choose a restaurant that offers half portions, or pick dishes so she can quietly eat plenty.
It doesn’t have to be on the 24th or 25t…
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📅 Nov 9, 2018 16:47
I’ve met eight female members in the four months since joining. At present, two are ongoing serious relationships, four have only had a second dinner (with three of them already having another date scheduled), and two stopped responding (one of them disappeared the day after and withdrew from the service). Is this about the usual percentage of relationships that continue for other people as well? Is it normal to narrow things down to th...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
Everyone enjoys papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) in their own way. Some people find one good partner, date them, and start looking again if they break up.
Since you’re continuing to see two women, I think it’s perfectly fine to keep dating both of them. You could also continue seeing them while looking for someone even better.
In the end, I think what matters is whether you’re able to enjoy your time.
I hope you have wonderful experiences with wonder…
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📅 Nov 9, 2018 15:55
Is it possible to register here even if I’m pregnant?
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📅 Nov 9, 2018 14:46
I’m a male member. I receive around 6–10 offers a year. Is that about average? I imagine there are also male members who make a huge number of offers and female members who receive a huge number of offers. I’d like to know the highest number of new dates arranged in a year by a male member and by a female member, so I can use it as a reference and motivation for my future activities.
💬 Answer from Responder:
Mochizuki from Systems Administration here.
The period covered is October 1, 2017, through October 31, 2018.
The average number of dates per year was 6.78. It looks like your number is slightly above average.
Here are the highest figures recorded:
Most offers received by a man: 300
Most dates attended by a man: 218
That works out to dating at least once every two days.
(I’m jealous...)
Most offers received by a woman: 43
Most dates attended by a woman: 36
That wo…
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📅 Nov 9, 2018 12:22
Suppose you make an offer to Platinum A, pay the setting fee, and are waiting for the date of your meeting. Then a woman who suits your preferences even better—Platinum B—joins the service. You want to meet her right away and no longer feel the need to meet A. In this situation, would it be possible to cancel the arrangement with A and have the fee you’ve already paid applied to setting up a meeting with B instead? Also, even if this is...
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📅 Nov 8, 2018 20:53
Would it be possible to disclose the current state of offers made to women aged 40 and over? (It’s fine if it takes some time.) 1) The total annual number of offers made to women aged 40 and over 2) The number of male members who made those offers Those two figures alone would be sufficient. Thank you in advance.
💬 Answer from Responder:
Mochizuki from Site Administration here.
First, regarding the period covered, we used the past year: October 1, 2017, through October 31, 2018.
1) Total number of offers to women aged 40 and over: 924
There were 33,810 dates with women of all ages during this period, so offers to women aged 40 and over accounted for 2.73%.
2) Number of male members who made these offers: 398
We currently have just under 3,000 male members, so approximately one in every seven or eight mem…
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📅 Nov 7, 2018 23:21
I’m a female member in my forties, and I really enjoy reading this anonymous Q&A box. …But lately, a few terms have been bothering me: “making money,” “work,” “clients,” and so on. Are there really that many young women who approach papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) this way? I may be struggling to express it, but I joined because I wanted to enjoy “a brief romance.” So I see the allowance as compensation for the time we enjoyed ...
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, the columnist♪
I’m flattered by your kind words.
If one of my comments ever causes an uproar, I’ll make a graceful exit, but until then, I hope you’ll continue to enjoy my posts.
I think of it as:
“Compensation for not taking things seriously.”
I believe emotions don’t have a single right answer—they vary from person to person. And breaking up is many times harder.
Since I enter relationships with the understanding that they will eventually end, I generally …
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📅 Nov 7, 2018 17:00
I’m a gentleman by my own estimation and by others’, but I do have a rather unusual preference (it’s not what you’d typically call “perverted,” though women might see it as much the same…). Would it be all right for me to join?
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
This is columnist Saito♪.
There are 8,000 women here, including women who are into niche preferences or who have interests they normally can’t openly talk about. So I think it’s worth telling them what you’re into.
Some women may even find it exciting to hear about something so unfamiliar.
(That said, please note that a dating club is not a prostitution agency.)
Things may not always work out, but you won’t know until you join.
First, let’s make sure you don’t get reject…
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📅 Nov 7, 2018 15:53
On second and subsequent dates with female members, 4 out of 6 people have canceled at the last minute on the day within the past three months. The reasons were heatstroke, colds or feeling unwell, and injuries, in connection with arrangements made before the date. They each went on another date after canceling. Should I be making plans for second and subsequent dates on the assumption that they may cancel?
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
Looking at it from a different angle than Leaf’s answer:
For those women, you may simply not be their top priority. Maybe they have other great men in their lives, or someone who gives them a more generous allowance.
They may see you as:
“Someone I’ll meet if I happen to have free time—not someone worth making special time for.”
What if you doubled the allowance?
If the last-minute cancellations stopped or they started responding more quickly…
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📅 Nov 7, 2018 14:33
Hello. I saw a previous post where someone said that a city hotel is preferable when going to a hotel after dinner. So I wanted to ask: when you meet during the day, what do you usually do? Also, if you have a family, I imagine it would be difficult to stay out until the next morning. Do you usually stay at a hotel for a short time and then go home? From a woman’s perspective, a city hotel is naturally preferable, but from the man’s sid...
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📅 Nov 7, 2018 12:46
On the men’s members’ site, there’s a favorites feature. What are the female members who are added to many men’s favorites lists like? And roughly how many favorites do they have? *This is simply a question out of curiosity. The person asking is a male member.*
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📅 Nov 7, 2018 12:11
People sometimes compare services like “Sugar Daddy” with dating clubs, but are there any seasoned members who can compare the pros and cons of the so-called “married people’s mixers” scene and dating clubs? (Answers from either a woman’s or man’s perspective are welcome.)
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, a columnist♪
The world of mixers for married people:
- They take too much time.
- Not all the men are wealthy, and the differences in income make things awkward.
- There aren’t that many men, so my inbox gets flooded with annoying messages asking, “When can I see you again?”
- Breaking things off is a hassle.
- You can’t make a move on everyone.
Those are the things I dislike about mixers.
That’s why I spend so much time at a dating club.
※I’m looking for a mu…
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📅 Nov 7, 2018 09:41
How many hours a day do you spend browsing the Universe Club website? I spend two or three hours on it and am starting to wonder if I might be addicted. (Male member)
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
It’s Saito, the column writer♪
I know exactly what you mean.
Let’s keep obsessing over it until we’ve absorbed it all—like wanted fugitives. Haha.
Eventually, it settles down to about five minutes.
That’s what all the male members around me say, anyway.
These days, it’s part of my routine to look through the columns and new women before going to bed.
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📅 Nov 6, 2018 22:12
Can I receive offers exclusively from doctors?
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📅 Nov 6, 2018 19:26
Isn’t having dinner with an older man unbearable? Especially when people can see you.
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
There are younger male members too, and everyone’s situation is different.
If that’s how you feel, then perhaps all you need to do is choose not to participate yourself, so I’m not sure how to answer your question.
Everyone has their own circumstances. Society becomes a broader place when we try to see things that way. And constantly worrying about what other people think can be painful too.
Sometimes I hear stories about the war from an elde…
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📅 Nov 6, 2018 19:05
I was astonished to read that you’ve made offers to 300 women, Mr. Saito. It’s hard to even imagine what the two women who made the cut and have been seeing you every month for over five years are like… Are they beauty pageant contestants, actresses, or women of that caliber? And how much is the allowance…? Of course, is it an adult relationship (intimate)…? Are they highly educated as well…? This all sounds so far above my world that I...
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
This is starting to sound like a topic that might cause an uproar, but—
I have three women whose allowance is ¥150,000–¥300,000 per meeting
(including women I’ve been seeing for less than five years).
I imagine all three earn over ¥10 million a year themselves, and anyone would recognize them on sight.
Entrepreneurs and idols at that level have had all kinds of experiences, so there’s never a shortage of things to talk about.
(Even those wh…
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📅 Nov 6, 2018 16:03
Do women read magazines like Tokyo Calendar and get influenced by them?
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📅 Nov 6, 2018 16:00
A woman I recently made an offer to asked me, “Have you already met a lot of beautiful women through the dating club?” I honestly replied, “You’re the tenth,” and the mood became noticeably awkward. Should I avoid being so brutally honest about things like this?
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, the columnist♪
I know, I know. Haha.
You seem like someone who’s good at your job. In the workplace, I think giving answers in terms of “numbers” is a basic skill for competent people.
“It looks like it might rain this afternoon.”
“There’s a 40% chance of rain this afternoon.”
However, at a dating club, it’s not that the latter is always the correct answer. The socially correct approach is knowing when to use each one.
“I’ve never seen anyone as beautiful as …