A man told me he’d like me to stop asking how many times a month he wants to meet. If a woman receives few offers and has few papas, wouldn’t she want to know for sure how many times a month she’ll meet someone and how much income she can expect? Money is the goal, so that’s only natural, right?

I’m Osaka, a male member. If that’s what he told you, take it to mean that whether you meet—and how often—is up to him. That’s all there is to it. In other words, he may: - Not want to see you badly enough to commit to a set number of meetings - Not want to feel obligated to meet - Be unsure whether he wants to see you again - Schedule the women he prioritizes first, so there may be months when he doesn’t need to meet you Those are some possibilities. The quickest way forward may be to build a relationship that makes him want to see you so much that he starts asking to meet regularly.

I’m Dai, a male member. There are all kinds of men out there. I may be more like that kind of man. If I saw the same woman several times a month, I think I’d quickly lose interest. Some men prefer to keep things going over the long term, meeting about once a month with a modest allowance.

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ I agree with Date◎Yume♪

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. I think it’s because he’s seeing a lot of women, so it becomes harder for him to juggle everyone. You’re probably being kept as a backup.

I’m a losing male member. If a papa (a male supporter) is wealthy but only has one or two women he can meet, I think it’s considerate—and reassuring—when he tells them how often they can definitely meet. However, for a bad papa like me, who constantly has five or six women on monthly arrangements, plus others on pay-per-meeting arrangements, it’s hard to date women who insist on a certain number of meetings. For my monthly arrangements, I tell them the maximum number of meetings, but I don’t set a minimum. I still pay the monthly allowance even if we don’t meet at all. It’s paid in advance. When work gets busy or I need to meet women I’ve been seeing on a pay-per-meeting basis for a long time, I adjust things by reducing the number of meetings with my monthly partners—even down to zero. So when someone on a pay-per-meeting arrangement says, “I’d like to meet three times a month,” there’s no way that makes me happy. It’s just another headache. I do want to see them. That much is certain—they’re all cute, after all. But coordinating everything is difficult, so as selfish as it may sound, I’d rather leave the number of meetings up to the papa. That said, it’s not that I like women on monthly arrangements more than those on pay-per-meeting arrangements. Some of the pay-per-meeting women who don’t complain even if we only meet once every two months actually end up lasting longer. The allowance for these patient women gradually increases to around ¥17,000 per meeting.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Only the person involved can truly know.