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Oct 9, 2021 16:40
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🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a column flag maker.
I don’t provide loans without something in return. Loans are only provided after you pass the screening process.
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
Aren’t girls who do things like that usually u●ly? Asking for that after only one dinner date is simply outrageous.
I don’t know whether she’s in college or vocational school, but I’d turn her down—someone that lacking in common sense isn’t worth investing in. She probably begs her female friends for money too. For all I know, she even borrows clothes and never returns them. She sounds sloppy. She might even work in the adult entertainment industry…
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m in Seattle.
If she were really my type, I might offer ¥300,000 with various conditions attached.
As for the “nude with your student ID” thing—that’s Imaizumi Yui’s husband, right? I’d be fine with that too, or I could take her on a trip for around ten days.
Of course, we’d need some circumstantial evidence that we’d get along and be easy to stay in touch with.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Once you’ve gotten comfortable with each other, I think it’s fine to continue without giving her that. If you only meet about once a month, continuing the arrangement should be fine too.
On the other hand, if she brought it up because she sees you as someone disposable whom she wouldn’t mind losing, then ending things could also be the right choice.
Also, if you don’t want to date someone who’s that financially desperate—because you don’t want to take advantage of her vulnerability—then it’s simply out of the question.
Do you want to enjoy the relationship, or do you want to get your way by throwing money around? Ultimately, I think that depends on your values.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Katsu, a male member.
After I’d gone on about three dinner-only dates with my current ace, she told me she was worried because she had a debt of ● million yen. I gave her ● million yen, saying, “Even if we part ways someday, you don’t have to pay me back.”
One payment of ● million yen wouldn’t hurt me in the slightest, so I didn’t think much of it. In fact, I remember feeling so euphoric I could have climaxed.
“I’ve really made it to the point where I can hand over this kind of money without a second thought.”
As it turned out, that ● million yen was money well spent, and she became the most important woman in my life. However, because of that money, it took quite a while before we entered into an adult relationship.
After all, wouldn’t it be unfair to expect intimacy from her just because I’d given her a large sum of money?
She repeatedly suggested, “Would you be okay with an in-room date next time?” but I kept turning her down. We didn’t finally enter into an adult relationship until about three months after we started seeing each other. Without that money, it probably would have happened a little sooner, though.
Here’s my answer.
I feel that focusing on whether to cut ties with a woman because she asked for money misses the point.
If you’re trying to enjoy a dating club, shouldn’t you simply work hard enough at your business to be able to overlook 300,000 yen and give it to her?
So at the very least, please phrase your question like this:
“I went on one dinner date with a woman, and she asked to borrow 300,000 yen. I felt pathetic because I didn’t have the generosity to lend it to her. Does that mean someone like me shouldn’t be enjoying dating clubs?”
P.S. 1: I wonder if Maezawa-san (me) is about to get angry with me.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Well, I think it depends on the woman’s overall circumstances and the man’s approach to the relationship when she brings it up.
There’s not enough information in the question to make a judgment.
When asking this kind of question, it would be easier to answer if you included more details about the situation instead of posing it vaguely to the public.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
It’s pretty presumptuous of her to ask for ¥300,000 after only having dinner together once.
I think ending things is the right call.
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Lol.
Another question about lending money—are you pretending to be a female member?
If it’s Fuu, we’re done. Save your allowance and deal with it yourself.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
Are you the same person who asked this previous question?
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/8993
I’m not sure why you keep saying you’re going to cut her off.
If you’re worried, it seems like you could simply choose not to lend her the money. Why are you so eager to end things?
Didn’t you make her an offer because you liked her? Or did you make an offer to someone you chose at random, or someone who wasn’t even your type?
If that’s the case, you’d be saying goodbye even if she hadn’t asked you to lend her money, wouldn’t you?
What’s the point of this question?
I could understand if you were asking whether you should lend her the money or not.
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Basil, a male member.
I’ve had a similar demand from someone I’d already had an adult relationship with once, and I ended things immediately. She probably only brought it up as an excuse to turn me down, thinking there was nothing to lose. Even if I’d agreed, she likely would’ve just stopped responding.
I was angry when it happened to me, but looking at it calmly, it was a fairly rational choice. If she gets offers regularly, she can secure the minimum amount she needs elsewhere. Rather than spending her time on an uncertain number of pay-per-meeting dates at 50,000 yen with men she isn’t interested in, she probably figured taking a shot at a one-time deal had better expected value.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Since I don’t even know what she’s like in bed, I’d end things immediately. If she has concerns like that, I’d at least expect her to suck my dick first before bringing them up.
Oh, and I’d probably leave feedback.
Other
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
Just one time, right? If you’d been seeing each other for three or six months, I’d understand, but for a single meeting… If you hand over ¥300,000, he’ll probably disappear right away.
I’d advise against it.