Men try to get women to graduate from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but is it okay for men not to graduate? Have you ever wanted to quit?
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People use terms like “ace” and “favorite,” but even if you’re prepared to be there for that girl for the rest of her life, you can’t choose to quit papa-katsu yourself, can you?
I wonder whether they realize that they’re making their favorites and aces unhappy.
It seems that the women who don’t become anyone’s ace or favorite and simply continue with papa-katsu are probably the ones who earn the most, avoid getting hurt, eventually meet someone they truly love, graduate happily, and go on to lead good lives.
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Since I haven’t made anyone unhappy, this doesn’t really concern me.
A good life isn’t something that lasts forever—it’s made up of moments. That’s why you should treasure those brief moments.
There’s no winning route or happiness route where, once you’re on it, your life is set for good.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
I think age may also play a role in why women eventually leave papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Men have usually been through many stages of life:
- Their student years
- Starting their careers
- Marriage
- Watching their children grow up
- Their children becoming adults
- Their children getting married
- The birth of grandchildren
- And so on
By the time they feel like they’re entering the “what’s left” stage of life, many of them seem to join a dating club.
Of course, some are single, but even they’re aware that they’re approaching the latter part of their lives.
Women, on the other hand, often haven’t even reached the halfway point of their lives yet. Some are still students, while others have only recently started working.
Because of that, I think men may sometimes develop the selfish feeling that they want these women to experience an ordinary life rather than continue doing papa-katsu indefinitely.
Maybe that’s why the idea of “graduating” comes up.
For men, it’s about the remainder of their lives. So when they eventually graduate, I imagine it will probably be because they’ve run out of money—or because they’re no longer men.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Well, there’s no need to jump to conclusions like that.
If your papa is pressuring you to quit, isn’t it fine to say goodbye to him?
As for Fuu, I suppose I’d graduate once that part stopped functioning?
A girl who’s cute, considerate, and knows how to value the person she’s with will be liked by both her papa and her boyfriend, and I think she can be happy. If you’re going to do it anyway, being treated well and genuinely cared for by your papa sounds more enjoyable than doing papa-katsu unwillingly.
Happiness exists within each person’s heart. Even if an environment looks happy to outsiders, if the person themselves feels unhappy, then they’re unhappy—and no one else can truly know.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
Of course, men graduate from dating clubs too. Even if you don’t want to leave, circumstances can force you to. So don’t worry.
As for my relationship with my favorite, I don’t make offers to anyone else while we’re seeing each other. I’m not registered with any apps or other dating clubs, and I don’t pursue other women either—she really is my favorite.
I plan to continue seeing her until she says she wants to stop. At the moment, we’ve agreed that she’ll leave once she gets a boyfriend.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Papas want to reaffirm that they’re still men through sex with young women. I think a lot of them can’t quit papa-katsu because they’re afraid of no longer being “a man.”
Please watch over them with a bemused but understanding eye.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
> Don’t men graduate too?
Men can graduate too.
If I stop making offers, I’ll graduate.
> You can’t choose to quit papa-katsu yourself, with the resolve to stay with her for the rest of her life, can you?
That is the choice I’m considering.
But I’m afraid I’ll eventually give in to the temptation to make another offer… I’m scared of the backlash… No, that’s not it… I have to follow through on my words… I absolutely will…
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When I thought of “graduating,” I assumed it meant that, for either men or women, you find someone you want to continue with, so you no longer need anyone new and leave the site.
Can quitting papa-katsu itself also be considered “graduating”? I thought that was called walking away from it. I guess it’s more like retiring.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t think every man is trying to help his partner move on from papa-katsu. I’m not trying to do that either.
If you’re going to support her for the rest of her life as her papa (a male supporter), then that isn’t really “graduating” from papa-katsu, is it?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I’ve never wanted to quit.
I don’t want to get married anymore either, but I still want to have sex…
I don’t understand what you mean by being prepared to stay involved in that girl’s life forever. That’s a pretty heavy way of thinking.
Why not just continue doing papa-katsu in a straightforward way? Do whatever you want.
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