Do men really believe it when a woman says she has no other boyfriend or papa and that he’s the only one? I have a papa who thinks I’m his girlfriend—what would someone like that think if he found out I actually have a boyfriend and lots of other papas too??
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I’m 20, and my papa is in his early 50s. I’m conventionally attractive, and there are countless men out there for me. He asked how many ex-boyfriends I’ve had (and how many partners I’ve been with), but I lied and said two. I also told him, “I’ve been to girls’ schools since elementary school, so I’ve barely had any experience with boys ><” The girls’ school part is true, but I’ve actually been dating and playing around with guys since high school. I’ve had more than 10 ex-boyfriends and been with around 30 people.
When we started seeing each other, my papa told me things like:
“I want you to think of me as your boyfriend, not your papa.”
“I can’t be in a relationship without romantic feelings. Are you the kind of person who can balance having both me and a boyfriend?”
“Men around your age aren’t a good match for a woman like you.”
I figured he probably doesn’t want me to get a boyfriend and wants me all to himself.
Obviously, he’s not the only papa I have, lol. I’m also having fun with a handsome, wealthy boyfriend a few years older than me, as well as three other generous (well-paying) papas.
This is the most beautiful and valuable period of my life, so of course I’m going to make the most of it and earn money from it. Yet do unattractive men who can’t spend time with young, beautiful women without paying really believe it when I tell them, “You’re the only one”? Maybe they might believe it if the woman were unattractive, but obviously there are others too, lol.
I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
At Disneyland, it’s more enjoyable—and better value for money—if you don’t think of Mickey as someone in a costume, right?
Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is the same. You get more out of it if you convince yourself she’s your genuine girlfriend and enjoy your time together. So I don’t think papas are really as serious as women may believe when they think their papa is genuinely in love with them.
There’s statistical data suggesting that men don’t prioritize looks when choosing a marriage partner, but do prioritize them in a casual partner. Apparently, women always choose based on appearance.
Books about gaining money through “erotic capital”—beauty when you’re young—have been around for a long time. But apparently, people who choose money too readily end up unhappy in old age. It depends on what they have left after losing that erotic capital.
Please be careful as well. I’m worried about you in many ways.
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I’m BB7.
If a papa (male supporter) is being deceived—or believes the lies—and that makes him happy, then isn’t that fine?
But then... who are you? What are you trying to do?
What’s so enjoyable about looking down on papas?
That’s how I feel.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
There are all kinds of people out there. In a place like this, I guess it’s a bit of a battle of wits—like the tanuki and fox trying to fool each other.
And while they say that, the papas may have several girls themselves, too.
So I’d say: enjoy yourself in moderation, while dreaming a little and letting others dream, too.
You’ll be determined to hold on to that handsome, wealthy guy, so do your best not to let your true colors show~
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
That sounds interesting ♪ I’m glad you’re having fun.
Do you know the saying, “A frog in a well knows nothing of the great ocean”?
But if you’re having fun, that’s all that matters.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
My papa (a male supporter) trusts me, too. He doesn’t know that I have a boyfriend or other papas. I’m truly grateful, and I want to let him keep believing in that dream for the rest of his life.
But if my papa ever betrays me, I’m going to tell him everything and hurt him as much as I possibly can. That’s how seriously I love him.
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My papas probably think they’re the only one too.
Sorry ♡
I’m silly for saying things like this when I’m getting close to your papas’ age.
I should probably settle down soon (汗).
Marika
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
Preparing and serving what customers want is simply part of being a professional chef.
As for venting a little in the kitchen, I don’t see the harm as long as the customers can’t hear it. lol
That said, serving dirt-cheap ingredients as though they were high-end, then joking in the kitchen, “That customer seriously thinks it’s premium ingredients—this is hilarious,” feels like a bit of a moral issue.
A business exists because of its customers. Just keep the complaining within reason.
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I’m Chairman Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
Yep, there they are again—the person who keeps writing “LOL.”
Do you really want attention so badly that you pretend to be a woman even though you’re a man?
Maybe you’d been careful lately not to get caught, but you’ve finally let the cat out of the bag.
You don’t need to post here anymore.
There’s no way any woman would write something like that.
Try your luck on another message board.
I’ll say it one more time:
Please stop posting here.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Back when I worked in men’s esthetics, therapists would sometimes tell me that a customer liked them and would be coming back:
“I’ll be back in three weeks after my overseas business trip.”
“I’m only here on business, so I’ll come back in two weeks.”
And yet the customer would book another girl for the next day or two days later.
When you don’t meet very often, it’s easy to play along and tell someone whatever story you want.
I imagine women in papa-katsu are the same way when the roles are reversed.
Don’t you think both sides already understand that…?
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t necessarily believe everything I’m told, but I try not to look at things too suspiciously or call people out. For example, if she says she’s only had two ex-boyfriends, I may think, “There were probably more than that,” but I keep it to myself and just listen.
When I’m being lied to, I can usually sense something is off, so when she eventually comes clean, I think, “I knew it,” and it all falls into place.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If you’re receiving an allowance, at least do a good job of acting like his girlfriend.
It’s not as though he’s telling you that, because you’re his girlfriend, you don’t need an allowance.
No matter how attractive you are, I wouldn’t want to get close to a woman like you.
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