I’m about to register with a dating club.

This is Nana Ayase ♡ Wait, you mean being forward? … When you receive an offer, please set aside four hours for your very first date. Basically, it’s a day date lasting around four hours, but apparently, once you get closer, overnight dates may also happen. If you come on too strong from the start, the gentleman may be surprised, but it could appeal to men who are into being led. For your first date, you’ll receive ¥5,000–¥10,000 for transportation. If an adult relationship is involved, the conversation about the allowance for that will usually come up around the time dessert is served. Some people may try to take you to a hotel without discussing the allowance first, so please be careful. Keep the basics in mind, but during the date, try to leave things to the gentleman as much as possible. If you bring up too much too far in advance, they may be put off—you also don’t want to be mistaken for a sex worker. This isn’t a situation where you should be the one taking charge.

I’m Hikōki, a male member. > Is a same-day return generally the norm? Yes, I’d say so. > Should the woman say something like, “I’ll make the first move,” or is it okay to just let things happen? It’s nice when she creates the mood, hugs you, and then takes the lead without saying anything. > Do most people discuss the allowance before starting the relationship and receive it in advance? Or is it paid afterward? At first, I used to ask, but most girls either left it up to me or couldn’t give me an answer. So I usually don’t state an amount in advance and hand it over when we part after meeting. I also don’t usually discuss it or name a specific amount. Regardless of their class—Black or Premium—I’ve continued seeing fewer than five girls.

Maezawa from the president’s office here as well. > Regarding what the relationship involves, is it generally a same-day arrangement? For the first date arranged through Universe Club, we generally ask both people to allow around four hours total—roughly two hours plus two hours. So, basically, it’s a same-day date. You’ll start with a meal, and during the meal you can decide whether you’re comfortable with that man. Afterward, you’re free either to decline or to continue with him. That’s how it works for Relationship Types C and D. If you register as Relationship Type B, the first day is dinner only, and you go home afterward. This gives you time to think carefully at home about whether you want to see him again. You’re also free to decline any dates after the second one if you decide it’s not for you. Relationship Type A means you only want a dinner-only relationship, so overnight stays generally aren’t involved. If a man says, “Let’s go to a hotel—I won’t do anything,” that’s a classic lie, so you shouldn’t trust him. If you’ve been seeing someone for dinner only for over a year, you might possibly go on a trip with separate rooms. But if you’re sharing a room, you should assume the man may make unwanted advances. It might be wise to stay prepared to call 110 at any time. (笑) > Also, if I want to take the lead, should I say, “I’ll do it myself”? Or is it okay to just leave it up to him? I’m not quite sure what situation you mean, but I’m not sure how “taking the lead as the woman” fits with leaving it up to the other person. If you mean that you’re the one who suggested going to a hotel, that only means you were comfortable with going there. Once you’re inside, I think it’s fine to leave things up to him. That said, if you enjoy taking the lead, I think it’s fine to do so. > Do people usually discuss the allowance beforehand and receive it before the relationship begins? Or is it paid afterward? Some men don’t bring it up beforehand, so if he hasn’t mentioned it, I think it’s better not to go to the hotel. He’ll probably ask something like, “Is that a problem?” At that point, you could ask, “Will I be receiving an allowance?” Then he may respond with something like, “I was thinking of paying this amount—is that okay?” If the allowance is lower than what you want, I think it’s best to say, “I’m sorry,” and leave. As for timing, receiving the allowance just after entering the hotel room is ideal. However, some men dislike paying upfront, so you’ll need to decide for yourself how you want to handle that. If you wait until afterward, there’s a possibility that some men may not pay you. I don’t expect many people like that compared with dating apps, but you never know what kind of person you’ll meet. It’s best to either judge whether he seems trustworthy or decide in advance that you’ll receive the allowance beforehand. In the first place, a good man will give you the allowance around the time you enter the room without you having to say anything. I think you should assume that a man who says he wants to pay later is no good. > Sorry for asking so many questions—I’m really anxious. That’s completely understandable, so please feel free to ask as many questions as you like. You can also discuss these things with the staff during your interview.

I’m Dai, a male member. I think staying overnight from the very first meeting is too risky. Whether you take the lead or follow her lead depends on the two people involved. It’s best to just go with the flow. Discuss the allowance before entering the hotel. Whether you receive the allowance before or afterward depends on the man, but I take a shower first and leave the allowance while the woman is in the shower. Best of luck.

I’m the “loser guy” among the male members currently getting heavily criticized. Let me make one important point: At Universe Club, the going rate for an adult allowance is 6+. The only exception is Nagoya, where it’s 7+. I bring up the adult allowance myself fairly early during the first date. I’ve never asked how much the woman wants because I don’t want to put her in an awkward position. If the second date is the first time we have a room date, I give her the allowance during dinner beforehand. I think women feel more at ease if they receive the allowance before entering the room. For an overnight stay, I would give the adult allowance even if there’s no adult relationship, and if there is, I’d probably pay the equivalent of two adult allowances. The time commitment is incredibly long, after all. If you happen to meet a papa who loves overnight stays, try negotiating for a little extra. I’m more than happy when the woman takes the initiative—and I’m even happier when it comes without any warning.

I’m Aya, a female member. Day trips are the norm, but some papa (male supporters) do want you to stay overnight, so being able to accommodate that need can lead to more repeat arrangements. Most papas don’t really bring up the allowance, and I end up saying, “I’ll leave it up to you.” I’m uncomfortable pressuring someone to pay more than they want to.

I’m Kazu, a male member. It’s usually a day trip, but sometimes it turns into an overnight stay once we get closer. When it comes to the woman making the first move, it’s usually a matter of mutual understanding（笑）. Some men may explicitly encourage her to take the lead. I think most men will check whether the woman is open to an adult relationship (intimate). Usually, this is also when the allowance is discussed. However, apparently about one in five to one in ten men will invite her to their room without discussing the allowance. My impression is that around 20–30% prefer to pay the allowance upfront. The percentages given by female respondents are probably more accurate.