What kind of restaurants do you all go to for dates?
I recently received an offer and went out for a meal, but we ended up at a chain restaurant where lunch was only 1,000 yen.
I was surprised and wrote that in my feedback before sending it, but is it common to go to this kind of restaurant on a first date?
I’m worried that sending that feedback may have made me seem like a picky member.
Personally, I don’t mind eating somewhere inexpensive, but I would have preferred to avoid a crowded restaurant.
I’m Dai, a male member.
As a date at a dating club, I have to say it’s not exactly typical.
That said, just because a man is wealthy doesn’t mean he always goes to upscale restaurants.
It comes down to personal taste—some people genuinely prefer inexpensive chain restaurants, even ones that cost around 1,000 yen.
I often go out for ramen myself.
However, since women generally want to dine somewhere reasonably nice, I make a point of choosing that kind of restaurant for dates.
I think the club staff would understand if you were disappointed after being taken to a place like that.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
If the feedback said they would have preferred to dine somewhere less crowded, that’s not being overly sensitive—it’s a perfectly reasonable opinion.
What a shame. You just happened to run into that kind of papa. Let’s wait for the next offer. He may have been new to being a papa, or perhaps he was someone who came over from a dating app.
Popular women are competing with other papas. I think papas learn through having their offers turned down.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
When we stay at a hotel, we usually eat at the hotel’s restaurant. But we also go to casual places together, like a Chinese restaurant in town or my favorite pasta spot.
That said, I’ve never had a first offer at a chain restaurant. I can’t tell whether the man is just overly focused on cutting costs or simply lacks sensitivity…
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
I can’t tell whether he was already the kind of person who went to places like that, or whether he started choosing them after meeting you.
There are plenty of restaurants at that price point where you can still enjoy lunch, so I think what matters is simply finding out whether you both have a good time.
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I’m a male member who’s definitely on the losing end.
There are family restaurants, you know. That said, I’ll hand her an extra ¥10,000 at the end of the meal while saying:
“Sorry it’s such a cheap place. Since we saved some money.”
So if a family restaurant is the best option, that’s where I go. Besides, I don’t like expensive places in the first place. If I’m going to spend money there, I’d rather give it to her as part of her allowance. Women are happier when they receive more cash.
Also, at Universe, I hand over the transportation money in an envelope before the server comes to take our order.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
For lunch, I usually go to restaurants with private rooms, where meals start at a few thousand yen.
I think, “I don’t mind if it’s inexpensive, but I would have preferred to avoid crowded restaurants,” neatly sums up how the person asking the question felt. If they had phrased it that way, I don’t think they would have come across as overly particular.
That said, while I don’t think going to a chain restaurant where lunch costs 1,000 yen is typical, I can imagine some people doing it. It doesn’t seem all that surprising to me.
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