Do you do anything to keep women from getting bored with you?
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Of course, giving them a generous allowance keeps them around, but...
I suspect she may be doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) behind my back, so I’d appreciate some advice.
I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
Always be a man who feels just a little “insufficient.” Deliberately leave a little room for her to stay interested in you.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
> Do you do anything to keep women from getting bored with you?
In my case, I make a point of saying, “I’m really paying attention to you.” Specifically, regular messages, dates every other week, a fixed allowance, listening to her concerns, advice on her daily life (including intimate matters), and complimenting her when I think she’s done well… something like that（笑）
> I’m worried she might be doing papa-katsu behind my back…
I wouldn’t worry about it too much. My attitude is, “If you’re going to do it, then go ahead.” I think that approach works fine.
When you genuinely treat a woman well, she’ll come to understand that. Men and women are just like that.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, answering as well.
Increasing the allowance may make her less likely to leave, but no matter how generous you are, I think she’ll walk away if she decides she simply can’t be with you.
That’s why some effort is necessary, but basically, it comes down to not doing things you think women would dislike.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I don’t do anything particularly special. However, I do research women’s food preferences and hobbies so I can make sure they enjoy themselves.
When a woman isn’t compatible with my dating style, I don’t try to force myself to adapt. Neither of us would have fun if we had to push ourselves. In those cases, I believe it’s better to move on quickly and focus on the next opportunity—that’s my approach.
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member, and even today, watching my wife, I found myself thinking how women are cute at any age—their expressions and ways of speaking are so varied and always changing.
When I reach out to someone, I choose a girl I’m attracted to and who seems likely to be a good fit for me physically and instinctively.
Once we meet, I just act naturally and don’t try to be overly considerate or careful.
I don’t state an allowance amount, either. That way, we can continue seeing each other when we both feel comfortable simply being together, have good conversational chemistry, and feel that we’re a good physical match—without either of us feeling pressured.
I believe it’s important to convey the joy of genuinely needing and wanting the woman, beyond just words or an allowance. It sounds simple, but I don’t think it’s easy.
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I’m a male member who considers himself a bit of a loser.
Whether it’s someone on a monthly arrangement or a woman I only see occasionally on a pay-per-meeting basis, I give 1,000% every time we go on a date. I never let my guard down, no matter who I’m with, and I do my absolute best to make sure she feels, “I’m glad I met him.”
So when it comes to avoiding becoming boring, the only advice I can give is:
“Always give it everything you’ve got.”
I mean, that’s how it should be, right? They’re spending time with an older man they don’t even like. The only things you can vary are the allowance and how often you meet.
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It’s me, Itsu-Me.
When it comes to the allowance, there’s always someone willing to pay more. So I try to keep it within my means and build a good relationship in an area where I can really stand out.
I don’t mind if she’s doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with other papas—in fact, I support it. The more competition there is, the more fired up I get, and I’m happier dating a woman who’s popular.
By the way, my current favorite is one of the female members who gets one of the highest numbers of offers each year. Rankings aren’t everything, but doesn’t that make you want to brag a little? ♪( ´▽｀)
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I’m Dai, a male member.
First and foremost, I believe it’s important to make women feel secure, including by providing their allowance.
On top of that, I think it’s nice to surprise them with small gestures from time to time.
If you continue to give the woman a sense of security, she’ll either keep seeing you alongside someone else—or come back to you—even if she’s secretly doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t think women stay just because of the allowance, so I try to keep them from leaving by not making them put up with things whenever possible. I also make a point of listening if they ask for better treatment—I don’t want them to stay if they have to tolerate a low allowance.
I don’t do anything in particular to keep things from getting boring, but I think both of us naturally try to do different things from day to day rather than always sticking to the same dates or intimacy.
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