About my papa (a male supporter) who keeps telling me the same stories
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He doesn’t remember what he’s told me, and I assume it’s because he talks about the same things with other girls too, so I end up hearing the same stories over and over. Isn’t that incredibly rude?
It really puts me off realizing that he has the same routine and the same conversation topics with every girl.
I smile and listen to him, but...
It makes me want to mess with him.
I’m Saito, the column writer♪
Please mess with them as much as you can. They don’t notice at all anyway.
They’re always saying things like, “Have I told you this story before?”
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I’m Dai, a male member.
It’s pretty common for one-person-show CEOs at small or midsize companies to repeat the same stories over and over.
Another problem that often leaves their employees frustrated is when today’s instructions are completely different from yesterday’s.
Since papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a place where you meet business owners like that, there’s not much you can do. Just accept it, smile, and enjoy listening to them tell the same stories again.
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Even papas under 60 do that too. They’ll say, “I’ve got so much I want to talk about,” and then tell me all kinds of things.
If it’s only happened once or twice, I just smile and let it slide. Around the third time, I’ll say, “You told me that before♡” Would that be okay?
Most of the time, they just go, “Oh, really? Sorry, sorry,” and that’s the end of it. It’s not really something worth getting annoyed about.
If you still want to get back at him, though, why not reply every time with, “I heard that already—I heard it!”? He’d probably feel uncomfortable and say goodbye, though.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
That’s not just something that happens here. Hopefully you find a papa (a male supporter) who won’t get upset if, after listening with a smile, you say, “You’ve told me that story like three times now♡” Papas who might get angry are scary.
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I think it’s unavoidable to some extent as people get older.
I also think they treat their family members and employees the same way, not just women.
People who have never lived with their grandparents, or who haven’t really seen up close what it’s like for someone to grow old, often say things like that—regardless of gender.
If he’s a man in his early 40s, though, I’d think he was just being thoughtless and lacking in sensitivity…
Marika
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I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.”
There was one woman who had been with the club for a long time who was like that.
It wasn’t quite to the point where she repeatedly told the same stories, but she genuinely didn’t remember anything at all…
Even the things we talked about that day would quickly slip from her memory one after another. She couldn’t even remember what had just happened… Maybe she wasn’t really listening because she couldn’t retain anything… It just never stuck in her memory…
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I’m Meg, a female member.
That’s so rude! I’d start thinking he must be seeing other women too.
My papa is almost 70, but I’ve hardly ever heard him tell the same story twice.
Sorry I can’t think of any good way to get back at him, but you’re admirable for listening with a smile.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this one too.
People repeat the same story over and over, not just in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
It must have been a really shocking experience for them, so I think it’s fine to listen. You could also say something like, “I heard that story the other day, but it really was something, wasn’t it?”
It only seems strange because you’re thinking of her as another girl. If you figure she probably tells all kinds of people—men and women alike—the same stories, I don’t think it’ll bother you as much.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
As people get older, their brain function can slow down, making it harder to remember conversations. Or perhaps work has them so preoccupied that they simply don’t have the mental space to remember personal matters.
It may not necessarily be for the reason you’re assuming.
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