Is it normal for there to be bleeding and bruises in BDSM?
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My P is very rough, and I’m feeling confused.
It seems normal for marks from being tied up, such as on my hands, to remain for a while. He also inserts his fingers roughly and scratches me, causing blood to seep from that area, and the marks from spanking my buttocks remain.
I feel like it’s escalating every day.
Is that just what the world of BDSM is like?
I’m Dāko, a female member.
If you’re being made to endure something painful because your sexual preferences differ, that’s assault.
If he thinks you’re accepting it, it’s obvious things will only escalate from here.
End the relationship immediately.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
A truly dominant man pays close attention to his partner’s reactions and doesn’t do anything that would hurt her.
The questioner’s partner is simply doing whatever he likes for his own gratification—that isn’t BDSM.
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I think it really comes down to whether you’re okay with it or not.
Apparently, in rare cases, things can escalate and result in someone’s death.
Marika
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
That’s not BDSM—it’s simply violence. End things immediately.
One day, he may choke you without realizing how far is too far, and something terrible could happen.
Please report him to Universe. It’s far too dangerous.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here with an answer as well.
I’m not very familiar with BDSM, but I don’t think this kind of thing usually happens with someone experienced.
The fact that you’re asking about it this time suggests that the trust—the most important part of BDSM—has already broken down.
At this point, it’s dangerous. I think you should stop for the time being.
I’m not sure of the details, but it seems like the other person has gotten too worked up and isn’t able to control themselves properly.
You may need to take a little time apart to cool off.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Assuming both people are fully consenting, it’s normal for there to be some bleeding or bruising. That said, there are many different kinds of BDSM play. With soft BDSM, bleeding would be very unlikely.
I’m not sure whether spanking falls under BDSM, but it’s fairly normal for spanking to leave marks.
If things escalate while disregarding the woman’s wishes, that’s not BDSM—it’s simply assault. So that isn’t what the BDSM world is about.
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