I’m a male member—the kind of guy who usually loses out.
My favorite among the girls I keep in touch with (the one I have a fixed arrangement with) still speaks to me politely, and I actually like that.
With the others, they usually speak casually during our time together but use polite language on LINE.
Basically, I think it comes down to their “character.”
I’ve gotten annoyed and ended things with girls who spoke to me too casually, while there are also girls I wish would speak casually but never do. It’s kind of a variation of teasing and making me wait, lol.
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Maezawa from the president’s office here, and I’ll answer this one too.
> At what stage do you switch from polite speech to casual language?
I think many people never switch, so rather than worrying about the timing, isn’t it best to let it happen naturally when it feels right?
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I start out speaking politely, then gradually adjust the way I talk based on my papa’s reactions as we get closer.
Some papas prefer you to keep using polite language, while others want you to speak casually. Some even prefer an even more relaxed style—joking around with lines like “Don’t cheat on me!” or “What even is that? lol,” almost like a couple having a playful argument. I think it’s best to adjust your style depending on the person.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I think it depends on how casual she is, but as long as you can still feel that she respects you, it should be fine.
I personally don’t care much about it, but women generally don’t speak to me exactly like they would to a friend.
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I’m in Seattle.
I personally prefer speaking casually from the very beginning. With the people I’ve been seeing for a long time, we speak casually. There’s a 30-year age gap. It’s more like a kind dad and his spoiled daughter.
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I’m a columnist and go by Flag Maker.
We usually start speaking casually pretty early on. There’s never any specific moment like “Let’s drop the formalities”—it just happens naturally.
Also, when we’re eating and the woman speaks to me formally, it feels so “papa-katsu” that I actually find it embarrassing. So I prefer keeping things casual.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t speak casually with her; I use polite language. Just as we’re still in an allowance-based relationship despite being close, I continue to use polite language even though we’re friendly.
If it stops being an allowance-based relationship, I think it would be fine to switch to speaking casually.
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
I think you’re compatible when you can naturally hit it off from the very beginning, without worrying about those things. Sometimes you just click without thinking about when it started or where you stand now.
If you have to think about it, they’re not someone you can truly relax and feel comfortable with.
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