He told me he’s had a vasectomy and wants to finish inside without a condom. I wasn’t comfortable with that, so I asked him to finish outside, and he seemed a little turned off. He did finish outside, though.
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Later, I looked it up and found that pregnancy can rarely still occur after a vasectomy. That, and the fact that he hadn’t considered protecting against other infections, made me rethink things and feel scared.
I’m also a little worried that he may keep looking for a woman willing to have unprotected sex and let him finish inside.
I thought he seemed like a good person both at first impression and after meeting him, so I’m conflicted.
I’d appreciate everyone’s opinions.
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> I’m hesitant because I thought he was a good person both from my first impression and after meeting him.
If he seems like a good person, I think it would be okay to agree.
People here generally treat going without protection as a bad thing, but that’s because this is a dating club.
If we were talking about a romantic partner, for example, it would be more like, “People do sometimes get married after an unplanned pregnancy, right?”
In other words, in a dating club, most men aren’t thinking about marriage, and many wouldn’t be able to take responsibility if a pregnancy occurred.
That’s why people say going without protection is a no-go.
For example, one respondent here boldly said that if a pregnancy happened, he would pay tens of millions of yen if necessary so the woman wouldn’t suffer. I believe he truly means it.
But I think there are many men who want to go without protection even though they couldn’t do that much.
So as a general rule, it’s best not to.
However, as an exception, if he is genuinely a very good man, I think it may be okay to agree.
Take a good look at the situation and make your decision carefully.
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I’m Nana Ayase☆
Why did you have unprotected sex? Is it really true that he had a vasectomy? Did you see any documentation from his doctor?
You can still get pregnant even if you’re taking the pill. Please go to a gynecologist as soon as possible and get tested for STIs.
That man probably tells everyone he’s had a vasectomy and that it’s safe to have unprotected sex. Then there are women who let him finish inside without even checking whether it’s true, thinking they won’t get pregnant.
That’s how infections keep circulating around the club. It’s a real nuisance.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
First of all, you can’t know for sure whether he really had a vasectomy.
If you think a man who wants to have unprotected sex and finish inside you is a good guy, I think you need to get better at judging men.
He probably doesn’t truly understand the risks of pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
No, no, no!
Don’t believe that!
Especially if you’re young—the chances of getting pregnant are really high.
You’ve got to protect yourself.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It’s not really a matter of opinion. If the arrangement sounds good to you, you can accept it; if you’re uncomfortable with it, just decline. That’s all there is to it.
Even when using a condom, pregnancy can rarely occur—and the chances may actually be higher than with a vasectomy.
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I’m in Seattle.
I don’t think pregnancy is a concern.
Getting tested frequently can reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections, but it can’t eliminate it entirely.
I think you should weigh the allowance against the risks and choose what feels right for you.
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