I have a papa (a male supporter) I met through this club about a year ago.
We used to see each other three or four times a month, but since he suddenly canceled in mid-May because he wasn’t feeling well, I haven’t been able to see him even once.
Then, just after June began, he contacted me and said, “My mother hasn’t been well, and since we live in a multigenerational household, I can’t really leave the house right now. Please wait a little longer.”
I’ve been waiting ever since, but it’s now been nearly three weeks since I last heard from him. Is he trying to let things fade out naturally? Or is his mother’s condition so serious that he simply has no time to think about anything else…?
We were close and used to travel together almost every month, so I’ve grown attached to him. I keep waiting every day for a message, and it’s leaving me feeling unsettled…
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I often hear about arrangements ending after about a year, so it’s possible he may be trying to end things.
But in that case, I’d expect him to stop responding altogether, and he probably wouldn’t bother making excuses.
So this time, I don’t know the real reason, but it’s possible he’s unable to meet because his wife found out and things have become serious—or that the reason he gave you is actually genuine.
Either way, I think all you can do is wait. In the meantime, it might be a good idea to start looking for a new papa (a male supporter) as well.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If the money has been transferred, I’d wait and see. He may genuinely just be too busy to give you attention right now. But if it hasn’t been transferred… there’s a chance he’s found another woman. You may have no choice but to find another papa (a male supporter) as a backup.
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I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
Is it really affection? Does affection make up more than 50% of it? Are you absolutely sure?
Could you swear to God? lol
It’s better to casually and cheerfully show your bad or uncool sides—it makes you more likable. …The allowance is more than 50%, right!? lol
Well, it can’t be helped. If you can wait a little, let’s take a look at what’s going on with that papa.
【Tarot Reading】
The papa’s current situation → He’s suffered some kind of setback. There’s also an indication that his own actions may have caused it. Since the situation is partly his fault, I think he’s unable to make a move right now.
As for what you should do, if you want to actively contact him, a compassionate approach that shows you’re there for him would be best. However, the reading also suggests that things will ultimately move in a better direction if you stop overthinking and simply give him some space for now.
Don’t read too much into things. Trust him, show concern, and be there for him. That’s the approach I recommend.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
It’s only been about two months, so I can’t really say for sure, but are there monthly allowance payments made by bank transfer or anything like that?
If so, then asking someone to wait is probably due to personal or family circumstances. But if there haven’t been any transfers and they’re simply saying, “Please wait,” that seems a bit questionable（笑）
How are these situations usually handled?
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
This is just my impression, but if you see each other that often and are close enough to travel together, I really do think it’s a genuine family matter on your papa’s side.
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I’m Ayase Nana, a female member.
I don’t think you need to wait around for someone like that. How many years—or months—do you think caring for a parent will take? Move on to the next person. Your time is too valuable.
Don’t block or delete him on LINE. Why not just leave it alone? He’s probably trying to let things fade out naturally.
As for working on yourself, how about adding more selfies to your profile?
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