I’m currently in my 30s, and thankfully, besides papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’m also able to enjoy relationships with women without money being involved. But I’m terrified that as I get older—into my 50s and 60s—I’ll eventually reach a point where women won’t even be interested in me unless I pay them.
That fear motivates me to work hard at strength training and skincare, but…
As my seniors in life, I’d really appreciate some tough love and advice from everyone at the club for this young guy.
I’m BB7, a male member.
In your 30s, you might as well go all out without overthinking it.
There are different ways to enjoy yourself in your 40s and 50s, too.
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Someone who’s gotten older and turned into a walking bundle of belly fat is a no-go, right?
Working out and taking care of your skin are basic grooming, so keep it up. On top of that, become a mature man with the kind of inner qualities that make you even more attractive as you get older.
Marika
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I’m Basil, a male member.
There’s no point worrying about your 50s and 60s yet—you won’t keep it up. I used to train seriously from my late 30s into my early 40s, but then I did nothing for about ten years, and my body suddenly started falling apart in my mid-50s.
I think it’s enough to start paying attention around your mid-40s.
That said, no matter how young you try to look, if you don’t have money, no one will be interested in you.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
You tend to worry about aging more when you’re young, don’t you? When I turned 30, I figured I wouldn’t be able to keep exercising forever, so I even started playing the piano and things like that—for my retirement years, haha. But honestly, it doesn’t really matter. Times are changing, and healthy life expectancy keeps getting longer, so you don’t age as much as you might expect. In the end, I started exercising again, and I may actually be in the best physical shape of my life right now. If I had to give one piece of advice, it would be: don’t think, “I’m getting old.” Keep your foot on the gas.
Also, if you want to remain attractive as you get older, I think the key is becoming a person with real substance. Taking care of your appearance—your skin and muscles—is great, but try to become a man with depth through all kinds of experiences. You’ve met various women and shared both physical and emotional intimacy, right? In a sense, you’ve had a lot of experiences most people would never have. I think those experiences can give you a certain depth and make you more appealing as you age. I haven’t made much progress in that area myself, though（笑
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I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.”
I think you should continue your relationship with your girlfriend as it is. Someone you’ve been with since that time can remain attractive to you no matter how old she gets—even at 50.
There’s also a certain depth that people can’t develop until they reach 50. Maybe there’s even a whole different kind of appeal that only comes in your 60s—I don’t know yet.
If you continue polishing who you are in your 40s and 50s, you may well enjoy a second period of popularity, after your late 20s or so, even outside the club. It won’t be the appeal of youth, but there’s a sense of security and calm that can only come from the experience of growing older. Of course, I’m talking about the inner qualities—your character and capacity for understanding.
Also, if you’re enjoying relationships that don’t involve money, I feel you might be better off waiting another 10 or 20 years before trying papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
You’re in a fortunate position right now, so try to enjoy the present. There’s no point worrying about tomorrow when it hasn’t even arrived yet. There’s no guarantee you’ll even live to be 50 or 60.
A devastating pandemic could break out tomorrow, aliens could invade and destroy Earth, or you could die by smacking your balls against the bathtub. Nobody knows what the future holds（笑）
What I find reassuring is that this club offers a setup where, if you have money, younger women will spend time with you. Whether you see it as “They won’t give me the time of day unless I pay” or “If I pay, they’ll treat me pretty well,” is up to you. Happiness is always within your own heart.
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I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
I’ve been laid up for a few days because I wasn’t feeling well, so I haven’t been able to answer…
I’m around the same age as you, but I don’t really have that kind of fear. I do make some effort with my appearance, but my selling point is my personality, not my looks. Besides, I don’t exactly have the kind of looks I could sell anyway, lol.
The main reason I’m not worried is that I’m not confident I’ll still have the motivation to pursue women once I’m in my 50s or 60s. Even now, I sometimes suddenly lose interest because it feels like too much effort.
My advice would be to start making an effort now to maintain your relationship with the woman you’re currently seeing, even when you’re in your 50s or 60s.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
> I’m working hard on strength training and skincare.
I think they may help to some extent, but they won’t be enough in the long run（笑）
You’ll age eventually. I think it’s better to consider, “What will I do once I’ve aged?”
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
I think making the effort is a good thing. If you keep it up, I believe it will bring you many positive results.
That said, there’s no medicine that grants eternal youth and immortality, so people do age.
I think you’ll gradually become less afraid of it, but for now, I think it’s perfectly fine to feel that way.
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