Is it a no-go for a woman to bring condoms or lube?

I’m in Seattle. “Diarrhea” had me cracking up. Just say it cutely, looking up at him through your lashes, and you’ll be fine.

I’m Basil, a male member. Now that you mention it, hardly any women bring condoms or lube. I can understand forgetting condoms when you’re busy and having to rush out to buy some, so once we’ve gotten close, it doesn’t really bother me.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. If you’ve gotten close and trust each other, it should be okay. But if my own partner did that, I’d be shocked—honestly, I couldn’t believe it... Once, I had a woman bring condoms, but it really put me off. She’s kept messaging me ever since, but that was the end of it. I have no desire to see her again.

I’m columnist Fuu. If you’ve been seeing each other for a while and have built a relationship, I don’t think a male member would be put off if you simply said, “I’d like to use this condom.” They might be a little taken aback if you pulled out one with huge bumps all over it, though（笑） As for the condom’s size, I feel like the male member would be the one to notice that. When it comes to softness and fit, there aren’t that many types of condoms in Japan, so SKYN and Glamourous seem to be popular with women. With something like that, I think it’s perfectly fine to casually say, “I like this condom, so I’d like us to use this one.” You can also ask, “Can we use lubricant? It hurts without it,” or “Can we use this? It feels better with it.”

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer too. > Is it a no-no for a woman to bring condoms or lube? I think it’s perfectly normal for a woman to carry condoms. I keep them with me just in case, because it would be a problem if someone asked to go without one after the condom was already on. If she explained it that way, I think most people would understand. Lube? Do you mean lubricant? If it’s the small, individually packaged kind, like condom packaging, I think saying, “I carry it just in case too,” would be fine. But if it’s the kind that comes in a bottle, some people might wonder, “Why is she carrying that?” > The condoms papas bring usually don’t fit me, so they hurt and I can’t enjoy myself. I don’t understand what you mean by “don’t fit.” I can understand a man saying a condom doesn’t fit, but I don’t understand how a woman would say that a man’s size doesn’t fit. As someone mentioned in an earlier answer, if the condom hasn’t been rolled all the way down and that part is rubbing against you, it seems like a problem with how it was put on, not the size. That said, if it’s a man you’ve met several times, you could try saying something like: “It always hurts there. Would it be okay if I bought some myself next time? I’m nervous because it’ll be my first time buying them.” I don’t think anyone would object, and I doubt they would find it strange if you brought your own condoms.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Could you elaborate on the comment, “The condoms papas provide are usually the wrong size, so they hurt and I can’t enjoy myself”? I can’t really picture what situation you mean. Are you referring to the situation described in the answer below: “When it only comes about halfway up, the resulting ridge hurts”? https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/7152 Personally, I think it’s perfectly fine for women to bring their own condoms or lubricant. However, as you wrote, “*I’m not a professional. I’m just an ordinary office worker in my late twenties or early thirties,” I imagine many men might be put off if it makes them feel you seem too professional.