What do you think is the difference between a friend with benefits and a papa, or between a friend with benefits and a boyfriend?
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What exactly is a friend with benefits in the first place?
Is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) basically having a friend with benefits where money is involved? If you don’t receive money, does papa-katsu become a friends-with-benefits relationship?
If a papa is someone you wouldn’t want to be intimate with unless you were paid, and a friend with benefits is someone you’d want to be intimate with even without being paid, is that the difference?
I’m honestly pretty confused.
I’m Taro, a male member.
Picture a four-quadrant grid. The horizontal axis is whether money is involved, and the vertical axis is whether feelings are involved.
Money involved, no feelings → papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) (adult-entertainment style)
Money involved, feelings involved → papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) (romance-style)
No money, no feelings → friends with benefits
No money, feelings involved → boyfriend/girlfriend
Isn’t that how it works?
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Is that really so important?
What difference does it make if he’s a friends-with-benefits partner? And what if he’s a papa (a male supporter)?
I think that’s about the extent of the difference.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
A fuck buddy, or sex friend, is someone you’re involved with without an allowance. A boyfriend is someone you date without receiving an allowance, sometimes with marriage in mind.
A papa (a male supporter) is someone you date in exchange for an allowance.
I don’t give money just to remain friends, so I think the biggest difference between a fuck buddy and a papa (a male supporter) is whether or not an allowance is involved.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
It’s a difficult distinction, since language is always changing.
“F--- buddy” is short for “sex friend,” so basically, it means a friend. You wouldn’t charge your friends money, right?
I think a f--- buddy is someone you enjoy having sex with as friends. The fact that both people enjoy it is important.
A papa (a male supporter), on the other hand, is someone who gives a woman an allowance. He shares a small portion of his financial resources for her benefit.
Sometimes he may send her money when she’s in need, or give her an allowance for dinner only (no intimacy). Many papas probably do hope for intimacy as well.
However, they aren’t basically friends. I think someone who gives a woman an allowance is what you would call a papa.
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