Does being quick-witted necessarily make me a favorite woman?
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I can talk to people I’ve just met without struggling to keep the conversation going or letting it fall into silence. Because of that, I’m often told that I’m quick-witted and smart, but that doesn’t mean I get a second or third meeting with every man I meet. I’m good at keeping a conversation flowing and expanding on different topics, but does that necessarily mean the other person is having fun? Or could the issue have been something besides the conversation?
Since I have a part-time job where talking to men is the main part of the work—not that kind of business—I’m used to having conversations with all kinds of people, and I honestly can’t tell who I genuinely enjoy talking to.
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Communicating with men can be difficult, can’t it? I feel the same way.
Since you never know what will really resonate with someone, there’s probably a limit to making a good impression through conversation alone.
I’m a man, so I can’t really speak from experience about interacting with men, but as a classic approach, mixing in some physical proximity and light touches might be effective.
For example, you could steer things toward looking at the man’s phone together, then deliberately place your hand on his shoulder and lean in close to peek at the screen.
The other day, I went to a private photoshoot with an adult video actress I like. She leaned in close, saying, “I want to see the photos you took!” and it made my heart race. I ended up getting so excited that I declared, “I’m definitely coming again!” lol
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
You seem to be good at conversation. However, I get the impression that you’re focusing mainly on how quickly you can think of things to say. For me, more important than keeping the conversation going is whether she’s considerate, laughs when I want her to, and naturally brings out her own cuteness. My ideal is someone who sits beside me with a smile and is comfortable enough to let the silence linger.
Separately, if she’s incredibly good when it comes to intimacy, I’ll do my best to keep things going, even if I have to put up with a few things（笑）。
It’s a little sad that you’re working so hard to keep the conversation going without actually enjoying it yourself. Maybe your partner can sense that you’re not having fun. Try finding topics you can both enjoy. Sometimes, instead of saying anything, just sit close beside her with a smile and hold her hand. Or lean your head on her shoulder and look up at her from under your lashes. If someone did that to me, I’d be completely smitten.
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I’m Nana Ayase, a female member.
We both seem to be enjoying our conversations, but I wonder… does he really enjoy them too?
He runs a company and is very capable at his work. Could he possibly just be adjusting the way he talks to suit me?
I’m curious about him, so if you don’t mind, please ask him a few questions.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
> Every conversation feels the same, so I can’t really tell who I enjoy talking to.
Honestly… that sounds really, really boring…
No sense of anything special… huh…
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The answer is already in your question.
When people talk about something they’re interested in, their pupils dilate. That can make them look more attractive, even if their face hasn’t changed.
Rather than having a smooth conversation with someone who can talk effortlessly to anyone, perhaps men would prefer someone who takes an interest in them and responds with bright, sparkling eyes.
I can’t say for sure if you’re talking about something on a completely different level, like sexual compatibility, though.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Just because a woman is quick-witted doesn’t necessarily mean she’ll become a favorite. It’s the same as saying that just because she’s beautiful, she’ll automatically become a favorite.
I’ve gone on dates with women I offered to meet through Universe Club, and fewer than 10% of those dates had any awkward silences. So, the fact that the conversation never stopped doesn’t necessarily mean I had a good time. Likewise, enjoying the conversation doesn’t necessarily make someone a favorite.
Most of the time, I don’t think a woman becomes a favorite based on just one particular quality or talent. If one special talent alone could make someone a favorite, it would probably have to be being exceptionally good in bed.
Back in the day, I had a go-go bar girl in Thailand whom I always requested. She only spoke Thai, so we could barely communicate, and she was a southern-looking type who wasn’t really my preference—but she was incredibly good in bed, so she was one of my favorites.
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