I’ve been taken to such nice restaurants through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) that when I went on a date with someone my age, I was disappointed by the cheap-looking place we went to.
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I feel like papa-katsu has changed my sense of money compared with people my age.
If papa-katsu is messing up my sense of money, should I quit...?
I’m Saito, a columnist♪
There’s something to be said for inexpensive places, too.
No matter how well someone is doing in life, unexpected financial setbacks can happen.
When that happens, it won’t work out with a woman who thinks that way.
I’m not saying papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and married life are the same, but men notice those things more than you might expect. That said, I don’t think male members who take advantage of this are any better.
Maybe like-minded people simply end up together.
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I’m columnist Fuu.
I’m glad to hear that you’re really enjoying papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). How about leaving the nice, upscale dinner dates with a good atmosphere to your papa (a male supporter), while balancing things out by enjoying experience-based dates with people your own age? Theme parks like Disney and Universal Studios, festivals, karaoke, and places like the beach or pool would probably be more fun with someone your age.
Even for meals, someone your age might suggest interesting places that are more affordable and have an element of fun—like restaurants where you eat crab or shrimp with your hands. Dates involving experiences and playful activities are probably more their style.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
The fact that you’re asking a question like this tells me your palate is pretty unsophisticated. Thinking that expensive automatically means good and cheap automatically means bad is a narrow-minded way of looking at things. Some expensive food tastes terrible, while some cheap food tastes great.
It may not be that your sense of money has become distorted—you may simply have fulfilled something you’d secretly wanted for yourself. If that’s the case, quitting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) will only leave you feeling stressed. Instead, I think it would be more positive to find a way to earn enough money to go to nice restaurants on your own.
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I’m a BB7 male member.
Eventually, you get tired of high-end restaurants.
In fact, there comes a point when sitting stiffly at an expensive restaurant, eating greasy, unhealthy, high-calorie food, starts to feel ridiculous.
You’ll have days when you think, “Kappa Sushi, Yoshinoya, Hidakaya, Ooto… they’re all perfectly tasty.”
You come to realize that spending more money doesn’t necessarily make things better. By then, though, you may already be past your prime as a PJ（笑）
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It’s Seattle.
You could either pursue marriage or earn enough to stay wealthy for the rest of your life—that would solve the problem. If you work hard, you can make it happen.
That said, I went to Kappa Sushi today, and it was delicious. Sushi is more enjoyable and tastes better at a table using the touchscreen than at the counter.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
Don’t you think how good a meal tastes depends a lot on who you’re eating it with? For me, it makes a huge difference.
In other words, even an expensive meal can taste bad if you’re eating it while worrying about making conversation with a papa-katsu girl.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
Papas do things—including things outside the club—to make people feel that way, so if you can quit, it’s probably better to do so… myself included, for both men and women.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
The other day, a beautiful woman in her late 30s who knows I have a papa said to me, “You usually go to all these nice restaurants in Tokyo, huh? I’m jealous.” I replied, “Of course I’m grateful, but I enjoy going to Saizeriya or McDonald’s with my boyfriend, who’s around my age, just as much—if not more.” She was surprised and said, “Really? I can’t believe it!”
I think restaurants seem shabby when you go with a man around your age because you don’t really like him that much. Even if you’re just having hot pot at home, it can still be exciting and fun when you’re with your best friend or a boyfriend you truly love.
The opposite is also true. In my case, if my papa isn’t someone I enjoy being with, then no matter how upscale the restaurant is, I’m too busy feeling self-conscious to even taste the food.
Thinking about it that way, perhaps you’ve met a wonderful papa who makes you feel excited to be around him. I don’t think that necessarily means your sense of money has become distorted.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
A friend of one of my partners—a woman who willingly dates older men without receiving an allowance—said something similar.
As for whether your sense of money will return if you quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I don’t think quitting alone will do it. I think it would help to make a distinction and date people your own age rather than treating them like papas.
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