I’ve been seeing my papa (a male supporter) for about six months now, meeting once or twice a week.
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I send him a thank-you message after every date, but the messages have started to feel repetitive.
Would a papa notice this from his perspective?
Do I even need to send one every time?
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
If you want to maintain a good relationship with a favorite papa, I think it’s worth sending even a short message. From a papa’s perspective, receiving a thank-you or a little comment is honestly nice.
If your papa is seeing multiple women, one of your rivals may be messaging him and keeping in touch.
You’ve been doing it all this time, so it would be a shame to stop now.
Even if it’s the same message every time—“Thank you, I had a great time”—I’d be happy to receive it.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I’m always the one who sends the thank-you message first, and mine usually goes out sooner, so I can somewhat understand how the questioner feels.
That said, if you genuinely feel that you had fun and want to meet again, I think it’s perfectly fine even if your messages become a bit repetitive.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I think it’s a good idea to send a thank-you LINE after the date.
I mean, you’ll probably have something to talk about anyway. It doesn’t have to be long.
You can think of it as sending a little sign saying, “I had a great time on our date.”
Getting a message like that makes the other person feel warm inside, so they won’t even mind their wallet feeling a little lighter（笑）
Thoughtfulness matters more than money!
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I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane.
If we meet once or twice a week, then after about six months, it seems like she’ll soon stop needing to send one.
Maybe it won’t be much longer.
When we don’t meet very often, they all send a thank-you LINE within five minutes of parting. Is that just standard etiquette in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? It’s only a few lines, but figuring out what to reply can actually be pretty difficult…
Also, when we part, they properly see me off with a smile and wave goodbye… I don’t dislike it, but it does feel a little unnatural.
If we meet one to three times a week, they gradually stop sending thank-you LINE messages before six months have passed. Some girls don’t send them from the beginning, and some don’t see you off either. In fact, they may be less accustomed to papa-katsu and therefore seem more natural. I sometimes find that more appealing.
I feel that with a thank-you LINE, what matters is getting excited together after the first date—both sides expressing their gratitude and how happy they were.
If you hit it off after actually meeting for the first time, I think the relationship will naturally develop into a good, wonderful one from there. In that case, there’s no need for a formal thank-you LINE; I imagine you’ll communicate everything important much more fully and naturally.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
I’m pretty much stuck in a rut too. I usually just use something from the day’s conversation if there was a particularly fun or memorable topic.
Even sending just one or two lines earns you a point or two in the other person’s eyes. If the message is good, you might earn even more, but thinking of something clever is a hassle, right? So I think the best solution—and one I’d recommend to anyone—is to send a routine, somewhat repetitive message and at least pick up that one point.
It’s also best to send it fairly soon—not immediately, but after waiting a little, while you’re both still on your way home. If the man sends me a routine LINE message too, I just reply with a sticker and call it a day.
If you want to make it a bit more thoughtful, as Kazu suggested, just quote one thing from your conversation that day (one is enough). The rest can be a standard, repetitive message. Incidentally, this approach also makes it easy to score points with business thank-you letters（笑).
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I thought you were talking about my partner（笑）
Using something you talked about that day as inspiration helps keep things from getting monotonous.
I don’t mind if the content is more or less the same every time. Some women don’t send anything, so it isn’t necessary, but I do have a better impression of women who do.
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