In my previous question, even though it was late on Christmas Eve, everyone gave me such insightful and spot-on answers that I was genuinely moved to tears. Thank you so much. Taking everyone's advice to heart, I think I'll try to move forward so I don't get too caught up in love. lol And if I end up going down in flames, I want to work on myself so I can enjoy the afterglow. Of course, I want to make sure neither of us ends up feeling bad in the end.
My question this time is: If you found someone you developed an almost romantic relationship with, would you focus exclusively on that one person?
Or would you continue making offers to others in parallel?
Thank you.
I’m a lost man in my 60s.
There was a woman who lived nearby, and we saw each other every weekend—or even every other day. During that time, I stopped checking the club site altogether and was completely devoted to her. We were practically a couple… That’s just how it turned out.
These days, most of the women I’m seeing live far away, so I sometimes check the club site, hoping to find someone I can meet nearby. But then again, with COVID and all… haha.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Do you really think women would want the kind of relationship Konbini-san is imagining—something like being lovers?
Also, wouldn’t it make you happier if she chose to focus on just one person?
Even if you can’t become lovers or something close to it, you can still be someone she turns to for problems she can’t discuss even with a lover or best friend—especially financial issues—and help resolve them.
Supporting the most crucial part of someone’s life is a meaningful help in itself. If you become a good person and someone she needs throughout her life, the relationship may even grow into something that, in a sense, transcends being lovers.
Since money in the form of an allowance is involved, becoming an indispensable source of ongoing support may allow you to fulfill the deep connection and happiness the questioner is seeking.
I believe it could become a relationship that goes beyond being lovers—one in which she feels deeply grateful to you and no longer sees you as someone she could simply part ways with. In that sense, saying “choose just one person” may no longer be the most appropriate way to describe it.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
If I met someone like that, I’d naturally narrow things down to her. But I wouldn’t intentionally limit myself—it’s more that it just works out that way.
I used to be more deliberate about narrowing things down, since it felt like the manly thing to do. But I feel the gray area is actually pretty broad. So these days, I just go with the flow.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I make offers to multiple women at the same time. To use a food analogy, I like both curry and stew—so if someone told me to choose one, I couldn’t, because I like them both (lol).
I don’t want to regret not making an offer when I had the chance, so I actively approach any woman who catches my interest.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
It’s not like we’re in a relationship—I’m simply the one who likes her. Lately, I’ve been seeing her less often, while my sexual urges keep resurfacing from time to time. So I’d been putting in offers here and there without much motivation, but before I knew it, I was on an eight-offer losing streak.
I honestly have no idea what I’m doing wrong, but somehow it’s eight losses in a row. Ironically, after losing eight times, my motivation is finally starting to come back, lol.
I don’t know when it’ll be posted, but the column after next will be about this losing streak. Hopefully, it’ll be useful as a reference for anyone who likes someone but still puts in offers.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Since a relationship “like a romantic one” is still only “like” one, I don’t limit myself to a single partner. In fact, I do have someone I’d describe that way, but although the frequency of my offers has dropped significantly, I still make one or two offers a month.
I also tell her that I make offers to other women and have other partners, so things don’t get too serious. That helps us keep the relationship at the “like a romantic one” stage.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
In my case, I’m one of the poor guys in the dating club, and there’s such a big age gap between me and the woman I’m seeing that it doesn’t really feel like we’re lovers. But since we started seeing each other, she’s been the only one for me（笑）
Of course, I haven’t made any offers either（笑）
That said, I do feel like making one sometimes. If I really wanted to, it wouldn’t be impossible.
But so far, I haven’t.
Try it for yourself—you’ll get hooked…
When you do that, the woman will also limit herself to one partner and won’t leave you either…（笑）
I’m enjoying things while imagining how the relationship might eventually come to an end.
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