I’m asking about a woman I like and have gone on about six dates with. I’ve started to notice the odor around her intimate area. I understand that people have different preferences when it comes to scents, but I seem to remember female members discussing intimate-area cleansers in the Q&A section and elsewhere. I’m unsure how to bring this up with her. I really like her, so I want to avoid causing trouble over something so minor.

Mamiyama from Universe Club Tokyo here. A lot of men come to us for advice about this, so it seems to be fairly common. My condolences. I was recently told about a product called Chlomy vaginal tablets. Even when it hasn’t progressed to vaginitis, discharge can vary due to the menstrual cycle, Candida, and other factors, and I’ve heard reports of it clearing up after just one treatment. Many women aren’t aware of this, so I think it’s wonderful to let them know. You can simply explain that you’re telling her because you care about her, and that it’s a normal matter of etiquette—not that she has a disease. She may feel shocked at first, but if you break up, that’s the end of the relationship anyway. Since there’s a way to improve the situation, it would be a real shame to lose interest in someone you like when it can be addressed.

I’m Kazu, a male member. The other day, just as we were about to move on to 69, the woman suddenly said, “Wait a second! I’m going to check the smell!” She quickly reached down to her intimate area and started smelling her hand. I wouldn’t mind if all women were like that, but some women really do have an odor. There’s one woman I’ve been passing on seeing again because of it. I’d been giving up at that point, but what should I do if I don’t want to give up on her? Maybe I could casually bring up the subject of bidets by saying something like, “I’ve always wondered what women without a bidet at home do, but I found out there’s something called Sepé.” If she still doesn’t take the hint, would it be better to be more direct and tell her that I really like her and ask her to take better care of the odor around her intimate area?